Everyone, regardless of gender, is afraid of something - it is quite natural. Fear helped our distant ancestors to avoid dangers - wild animals or people from hostile tribes - and survive, but today we are more and more afraid, not that directly threatens our life or health. Many women live in a safe, comfortable environment, and, nevertheless, they continue to torment women fear - it begins in adolescence, and does not end even in old age.
Fear not like
This fear, apparently, is a consequence of how the girls are educated in our society. Games are played by little girls, based on the interaction and social relations rather than on competition. Girls playing in the family (mother-daughter), while the boys - in the war. In the game "Mothers and Daughters" and other traditional games for girls are no winners. As a result, the desire to please others they develop much stronger than the desire to win. Out of fear, many girls do not like it, and then - women seeking to please men all forces (first of all - in accordance with their notions of beauty), and later often complain that marriage dissolved their identity.
How to overcome this fear? We must realize that it is much more important, Do you currently than how you are around
. If you can get to know yourself and love yourself for who you are, you will find that the opinions of others for you to lose value, and you will no longer seek to please others
. So the right question is not "How to please everyone around (or the man)? "And" How to please yourself? "
. To persuade his task, think of someone whom you really admire - it could be a relative, friend or a celebrity with whom you've never met
. Highlight features of this man that you particularly admire and who you think you are completely deprived
. The fact is that we often admire those traits in a person, which is in ourselves, but for some reason are hidden or undeveloped
. Perhaps realizing this, it becomes easier to love yourself - and choose the direction in which you want to work on a
Fear to sacrifice family for work
Many women are constantly wondering whether their careers prevents family life. Modern women tend to do well at work, but at the same time they want to devote enough attention to his family. Because to do something, and the other, can not always, they have doubts, guilt and fear.
How to overcome this fear? Cease to do several things at the same time, and focus on the present moment
. In other words, when you play with the kids, just think about them, and is engaged in the work
. Even if communication with children have very little time left, spend this time with maximum benefits
. Turn off the phone, the TV and the computer, so that nothing distracts you from the children
. When I have time, read them aloud to go somewhere together, and do not forget to tell them how much you love them
. If you have to stay at work, or you are on a business trip, the children communicate via Skype - and let them see and hear you, despite the distance
. And when you work, do not let yourself be distracted by the thought that the children do not get enough attention - it just hurt to quickly cope with the job and get home for dinner
. Finally, if your husband is not very active in children, remind him that he was not the only person working in the home, and children need the attention of both parents
Fear of breaking up with a partner
No matter who the partner - the next boyfriend or legal spouse, women are afraid of parting with it. They need strong relationships that last a long time, and it is desirable - for ever. As a result, she is constantly asking themselves whether it satisfied partner, whether it is good enough for him, so they wonderful couple, as it seems, and so on.
How to overcome this fear? Here useful advice on overcoming fear not like it - it is necessary, first of all, appreciate herself, and not themselves as part of a pair. Legend of the second half is beautiful, but it's just a legend: people can perfectly fit together, can live together all their lives, but it still will not (and should not be) one.
In addition, stop worrying about the future. There is nothing more important than the present, but an experience that could theoretically occur only takes away your energy, where you can find a decent application.
Finally, try to think of the relationship as an exciting journey in good company. If it ends and you see that before you a blank wall, you need to stop and leave the companion, thanking him for everything. When a relationship ends, it is better to think about how much you get from them, than to regret that they did not result in marriage, children, and grandchildren.
Loss of appeal
Gray hair, wrinkles, weight gain, flabby muscles - that women are beginning to fear with age. Specifically, they fear that they will cease to be attractive to her husband, they no longer look and compliments
Compliments and their meaning: do not mistake the words
How to overcome this fear? Take care of yourself and watch out for health. Yes, in 60 years you will not be able to look like in 30, but if you just look good for my age, loved and loving man will still take you a beauty. In addition, it is also aging and, no doubt, it is also scary.
Fear of loneliness
The death of a spouse, children or friends moving many women scared more than his own illness or death. Many are beginning to fear that long before they reach retirement age - simply because they saw a lonely old people in the streets and in the shops near her house every day.
How to overcome this fear? Maintain old friendships and make new. Your circle of friends of all ages should not be limited to members of the family and a couple of old friends. Walk to interesting events, clubs, travel, and constantly expand the circle of acquaintances - it will help you get rid of the fear that the old age you will be alone.