How to cope with stress after the birth of a child: do not panic!

September 28, 2012

 how to cope with stress after birth
 You brought home a bundle of lace and relish the joys of motherhood. However, the reality is very different from the expectations. Many mothers may develop a serious stress due to the fact that they need to constantly take care of the baby, and do not have time to deal with the changes in currently. Following are some tips you can avoid these problems and to cope with the already existing stress How to beat stress? Create an oasis  How to beat stress? Create an oasis

 How to cope with stress after the birth of a child: do not panic!

Take care of yourself

Care is necessary not only for the child but also about yourself. You need to eat, drink and sleep. Council sounds obvious, but quite easy to forget about yourself when all your attention focused on the child. Keep water handy and useful food for snacks, such as apples or carrots.

If the husband or relatives willing to help you get up at night to the child at a time - and you will see what miracles can create a few hours of sleep Dreams: how to understand our dreams  Dreams: how to understand our dreams

 How to cope with stress after the birth of a child: do not panic!

Be prepared for a storm of emotions

If this is your first child, everything will be new to you. You may feel that life is out of control and everything has changed with the advent of the child.

  • Be prepared for the fact that parenting has ups and downs. There are days when everything goes well and days that seem to you a nightmare. Accordingly, your reaction to the circumstances may also be different.
  • Be prepared for mood swings Mood swings in women - bad character or a disease?  Mood swings in women - bad character or a disease?
   - You can be touched, looking at the tiny pink fingers, and a minute later to cry because you can not leave home without the two hour fees. All mothers are going through it.

 How to cope with stress after the birth of a child: do not panic!

Lower your requirements

You want to be superwoman - a perfect housewife and a loving mother and wife at the same time? Think you really need it?

Nothing terrible will happen if you have vacuumed or washed not today, tomorrow, and there's nothing wrong with that, if you do without culinary delights for lunch. The child does not need a superwoman, just he needs love, care and attention. And this is more important than dust or dirty laundry.

 How to cope with stress after the birth of a child: do not panic!

Get out of the house

Nothing helps a tired mom, like fresh air. Walk with your child as often as possible. If possible, go for a visit, or sign up for yoga for mothers with children.

 How to cope with stress after the birth of a child: do not panic!

Know when to ask for help

Sometimes emotions Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code  Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code
   may be still too strong. If you feel that it is time to ask for help - in any case, do not put it off. Seek the advice of a psychologist or another specialist.

The longer you remain in a state of stress, the more likely that you will create unfavorable conditions for the child.

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Shyness: vice or virtue?

December 9, 2013

 You're shy? If the answer is yes, then you are in great company - according to surveys, considers himself shy, almost half of adults. Thus, when the shy people hear such data, they wonder - until now they thought that people like them - units. Shyness in adults as well as children and adolescents, is a kind of excessive introversion - people are extremely concerned about what he does, how it looks and what people think around.


How shyness affects the way of life

Although shyness affects people of all ages, it can have a particularly serious impact on the lives of adults - particularly shy person harder to succeed in professional life, establish a romantic relationship, and so on. Such people are hard to start and maintain a conversation, move on to intimacy, to interact in a group, contact the authorities.

People who for a long time can not cope with shyness, rarely go out on dates, have not well developed skills of verbal and non-verbal expression of his own thoughts and feelings, are less interested in other people (and not because of the fact they really are not interested) . As a result, it is becoming harder to arrange them at both the workplace and in a variety of situations of social interaction.

Shyness is particularly evident in times of significant change in life, for example, after a divorce, dismissal, moving, and so on. As a consequence, man is difficult to adapt to changing conditions, because of what he can develop depression, anxiety, and other disorders.


Common features of shy people

Shyness all manifested in different ways, but shy people have a lot in common. Firstly, many of them are struggling to avoid situations when you have contact with other people, especially strangers, bosses or government officials.

Generally, shy people want to chat and interact successfully with people, but for some reason they believe that it is not capable of it. Therefore, the typical shy experiences associated with the inability to get what you want.

Secondly, shy people are slow to adapt to situations of social interaction .  They can come to some kind of event, to be ten minutes and leave, making sure that they feel at ease .  In fact, they need a little more time to shop around, to understand that they are no one looks accusingly, and perhaps find one or two people with whom they could communicate quite well .  Another common mistake that many shy people if the party starts at eight in the evening, they come at nine, hoping that among the guests already on them will not pay too much attention .  Psychologists recommend them to arrive early, maybe half an hour before the start (7 . 30), to a little getting used to the place where the party will be held, to greet arriving guests and then to nine in the evening they will feel more or less comfortable .

Third, shy people have very little comfort zone. They have friends and acquaintances, but very few. They tend to deal with the same things with the same people again and again, because it makes them feel more or less confident. They refuse to try new activities, and may limit their social contacts, if friends start to regularly offer them to do something new. Even if they want variety, fear to go beyond the tiny comfort zone is often stronger. At the same time they would like to expand the comfort zone, but it sure can not do it, and feel as if stuck in it.


Shyness and work

Shyness can significantly hinder your job search. Call a potential employer, a job, go to the interview - to do this, a shy person should be many times more work than those who do not suffer from shyness How to win your shyness?  How to win your shyness?
 . But even if he gets a cherished place, it will not end the problem: Many positions require good communication skills, self-confidence and ability to speak convincingly. The statistics show that shy people and introverts, harder to get promoted than extroverts. The more timid person, the less impressive are his career achievements - even with a high level of education.


What to do if you are shy

Many shy people eventually begin to suffer from family problems, anxiety, alcohol abuse and other forms of abuse. They can see a doctor and take medication, usually antidepressants, but they only help to cope with depression Depression - a little more than a bad mood  Depression - a little more than a bad mood
   or anxiety Anxiety - how to distinguish normal from disease?  Anxiety - how to distinguish normal from disease?
 ; shyness after drug therapy is not going anywhere. Many people with time just dropped his hands; they begin to justify the failure of all his shyness and unwillingness to do anything else, explaining simply, "I'm shy, there's nothing you can do about it."

However, shyness - it is not a sentence. Maybe get rid of it completely impossible, but man can overcome it constantly reminding myself that shyness - it is not a vice, but just such a character trait (overconfidence, if you think nothing is better). Communicating with others, think it is about them, not about how you look in their eyes. Remember that most people do not want to hurt you, and that around you certainly still a lot of people who suffer from shyness, too - after all, they are almost half of the total population. Gradually, you will cease to withdraw into themselves, become more open to dialogue and see - many people really want to chat with you. Shyness - not a disease, and it is possible and necessary to live a happy and fulfilling life.

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