What to tell your child about sex: how to start
April 9, 2012
- What to tell your child about sex: how to start
- Where are the children
Reflecting on how to start a conversation with your child about sex and whether to do it, remember that the main task of parents is not only (and not so much) to give the child a specific information about sex, intimacy and procreation. The main task of the parents to instill respect for son or daughter.
- Respect for the body - both their own and the other person;
- Respect for the miracle of childbirth;
- Respect for the privacy of every person;
- Respect for the right to sexual life as their peers and parents, friends and relatives;
- Respect for their own future and understanding that sexual activity will have a huge impact on his future life;
- Respect the institution of marriage and the recognition that sexual relations
Sexual relations: how to bring passion
marriage is undesirable.
Some parents find that talking about sex with your child need when he reaches the age of puberty
Puberty child - stages of a complex path
Not before, but actually to start sex education should be culture almost from the cradle. And the main condition of education of harmoniously developed personality in intimate terms - a harmonious sexual life of the parents, to the existence of which they are not sanctimonious. The first time a child learns about sex, not when starting to ask questions, "Where did I come," and when the mother and father are standing over the crib suckling, embracing. When they are not ashamed of their tenderness and affection, pull together.
A child from birth is a sexual being
. He takes pleasure in sucking the breast and body contact with his parents, he examines the body and finds the erogenous zones
. In many ways, children's attitude to the body, bodily pleasures, sex and procreation will depend on what kind of sample responses to all these phenomena will present his adult
. A lot of information is transmitted non-verbally, and by default - because any omission filled
. Children feel great, some things make parental strain
. They read the parental reaction gestures, facial expressions, and the smell of hormonal origin, which reflect our emotional state and are perceived subconsciously
. And if kissing mom and dad at the sudden appearance of the child's nervous twitch if they ignore the specific issues - then most likely in older age any hints of sexual activity will cause a child's embarrassment in the future he will have to make an effort to more freely and happily accept the sexual sphere
According to the observations of psychologists, if parents do not have much sexual complexes, and the children perceive this area is also very natural and relaxed. It is very important from an early age to introduce children to teach physiology and sexual health. Tell the children that the conception
Conception, ovarian cycle, fertilization and genetics of a child
comes as a result of sexual intercourse - is not the same as to teach them to have sex. Sex and sexual intercourse - is a lesson for adults only, so you can discuss them when the child is older and can better understand what he's told parents.
A child from an early age should know the name of the genital organs (it is best to discuss this topic when bathing the child): the penis or the penis, vagina, or vagina. At this stage the child is not necessary to say that genital mutilation has a special mission - you just have to point out the difference between the sexes and give the names of the genitals. It is technically easier for you to talk further. Also, the child must learn to see and to touch them should not be no one else, and in some cases - the doctor or parents. It is necessary to give the baby to understand that, although the genitalia are not something bad or dirty, they are not intended for public viewing. When he learns to walk to the bathroom and do sexual health, parents should instill in him that if someone tries to touch it "out there", he has to fight, scream and be sure to report it to an adult.
For five years the children wakes up interest in the study of the body other peers, they are very interested in the physiological differences between the sexes
. At this age, one of the favorite children's games - in "Dr."
. There is nothing wrong if the kids are playing the same age and activity takes place without violence
. Playing doctor, children are introduced to the body of another person, receive joy and pleasure of bodily contact with peers, studying the relationship of subordination control
. It is perfectly natural activity, a necessary stage of psychosexual development of the child, so parents do not have to come to the horror and indignation
. In no case do not scold the child, do not say that he should be ashamed
. Once again I remind them that no one should touch his private parts, and that it must respect other children
. The same response should be the parent if the child is naked running around the house in the presence of strangers or showing their genitals to other people, to see their response
. If a child continues to behave in this way, in spite of repeated warnings to the parents, should take tougher measures, but this issue is not sexual promiscuity and disobedience and rebellion against parental authority
In six or seven years, children begin to ask questions about sex. But these questions are still blurred, vague. For example, a kid can see in the film a love scene and ask, "What are they doing? "- This question is enough to say," They love each other. " Most likely, after a while there the theme of "children appear, because adults here and so like each other." Talking about the new complex things, like sex, use the "mini-trial response." That is, when a child is something you ask, answer simply and briefly - do not try to squeeze in a child immediately a whole range of information. Psychologists know from children, often parents tell them what they did not think to ask, and it's just confusing, and at times confusing. Let's take a small portion of correct information and be guided by the child's response.
Precocious puberty - when maturity comes too early - Diagnosis and treatment
January 13, 2008
- Precocious puberty - when maturity comes too soon
- Diagnosis and treatment
Diagnosis of precocious puberty
A doctor specializing in hormonal disorders in children is called a pediatric endocrinologist. In the case of suspicion of early puberty should refer to this doctor. Initially, the doctor will examine the history of the disease, and then examined the child and referral for various tests that confirm or refute a presumptive diagnosis.
The physical examination of the child can detect changes and signs of early puberty (breast augmentation, rapid growth, menstruation, acne
Acne: facial trouble
Increase testicles or penis and pubic hair growth). Also performed X-ray examination of the palms and wrists baby - this is a very important aspect of the diagnosis of precocious puberty. X-ray examination helps determine the bone age of the child and find out whether they are growing fast or normal.
After the initial diagnosis determines the type of precocious puberty. Child injected gonadotropin-releasing hormone, and then take a blood sample for analysis. In children with central precocious puberty observed increased levels of luteinizing hormone and follicle-stimulating hormone, and in children with peripheral precocious puberty levels of luteinizing hormone and follicle-stimulating quite normal for their age.
For the examination of children with central precocious puberty perform magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) of the brain, the brain detects possible anomalies. Also, perform a survey of the thyroid gland, to exclude the possibility gipotireza. In some cases, the doctor prescribes a pelvic ultrasound in order to detect ovarian cysts
Ovarian cysts - normal or dangerous?
Complications of premature puberty
Dysplasia: precocious puberty is often accompanied by growth arrest. At the beginning of puberty, children are growing rapidly, but then growth stops much earlier than their peers, so as adults they are below their peers.
Polycystic ovaries: the girls who have started menstruating before 8 years old, are at increased risk of hormonal disorders and diseases in the future. Polycystic ovary appears irregular menstruation and elevated levels of the hormone androgen. In this case, ovarian cysts appear, and release of an egg does not occur.
Treating precocious puberty
In most cases, treatment of precocious puberty depends on its cause. There are two basic approaches to the treatment depending on the cause.
Treatment causes puberty or causes of his illness, such as cancer.
Drug reduction in the level of sex hormones to slow puberty.
When precocious puberty is caused by a disease to slow down the process requires the treatment of this disease. If your child has a tumor that produces hormones, "guilty" in the early premature puberty, need surgical removal of the tumor.
If unable to determine the cause of precocious puberty, the child is prescribed certain medications. Introduction gonadotropinosvobozhdayuschego hormone antagonist - a monthly injection of the drug, such as leuprolide, which helps stop the growth axis of HCG (human pituitary gonadotropin) and slow down the further development. This treatment is carried out as long as the child has reached the normal age of puberty. After stopping the treatment process begins puberty.
Treating precocious puberty helps to stop the ripening process as long as the child has reached the normal age. Otherwise there is a danger that premature puberty may interfere with normal physical and mental development of the child.
Adapting to precocious puberty
Although some early puberty factors can not be controlled (sex and race), other factors can be eliminated. For example, children need to live a healthy lifestyle and maintain a healthy weight. Also avoid external sources of estrogen
Estrogen - the key to bone health
When precocious puberty
Puberty child - stages of a complex path
the child a feeling of otherness to peers that may cause emotional trauma. Depression, drug abuse and low self-esteem - these are just some of the problems faced by children, grown up too soon. If a child alone can not cope with their condition should seek help from a therapist. Psychotherapeutic counseling helps the child and his parents a better understanding of the emotional and physical difficulties associated with early puberty.