Sexual relations: how to bring passion

Sex - an important component of any intimate relationship. But, sadly, eventually giving way to the romantic ardor of habit and intimacy becomes less bright. According to the research, most couples can not long maintain the passionate attraction to each other, which will bring them to the beginning of the novel. And there is a logical explanation.

At the beginning of the relationship partner simply sweeping passion, and any touch causes a wave of tenderness. Every day you'll learn about the beloved (or beloved) something new and interesting, which further inflames desire. Nevertheless, even in the cooled relationship can be returned fire. How? It's easier than you think. It is enough to follow a few simple tips:

Talk about sex

Openly discussing sex life is very important. Moreover, such conversations are exciting both partners. You can talk about what excites you, your sexual fantasies, or what do you expect from a partner (the more details the better). It is also useful to remember your first sexual contact with a partner at the beginning of the novel.

Break the routine

Do not be afraid to try something new and different. For example, try to go with you to a new sport (eg, skiing) or with cooking lessons. Visit the new restaurant that had never visited, or prepare a surprise interview partner. You can also start a game in which the prize is sex. Unexpected lessons in which you are involved together, be sure to return to its former sharpness of your relationship and create a romantic mood.

Change the time and place

Plan a romantic dinner or a weekend for two. For one night dropping out of reality and forget about everything. Embark on a small romantic trip - so you will have new common memories. No need to go far from home, you need to find a place where you'll be fine together. This is especially important for women - like seclusion with beloved acts on them stronger than any aphrodisiac Aphrodisiacs - cause desire where necessary . The main thing - do not talk about work and other everyday matters.

Use the "auxiliaries"

Buy a few bottles of aromatic oils Essential Oils - whether they will help in a difficult moment?   massage and manual massage. More often make each other massages. Play a board game or strip surprise partner sexual underwear - works perfectly. Tested repeatedly.

Find a stimulating activity

It's not what you think. Find activities that you will continue to communicate and experienced the excitement goes to intimate relationships. For example, go to the amusement park and ride the roller coaster, look with horror or intense work out. According to studies, these studies are extremely excited - unless you share them with a partner. Adrenaline, which is produced in the course of such employment, will certainly cause a surge of sexual desire.

  Scientists have made a new attempt to understand the evolutionary roots and modern function of female orgasm - as well as its imitation. According to the study, sixty-seven heterosexual women admit that from time to time imitate orgasm. The majority of men believed that their partners do not - only twenty percent of the respondents think that their partner sometimes can imitate orgasm. In addition, they recognize that they would not like to find out about the hypocrisy of women in bed.

Given that only twenty-eight percent of men admitted that they had to fake orgasms, it is not surprising. What is surprising is pretending not always bad for sex life. Depending on the motivation of women imitation of orgasm can increase her sexual satisfaction - according to scientists, some women imitate him so hard that in the end, they feel closer to this climax.

The gift of nature or control of fertilization?

Ninety percent of men say that is important to them that their partner experienced orgasm, and, according to scientists, it has serious reasons .  In a recent study involved 299 heterosexual men; Each of them was asked about when they last had sex with their partners, and how long after that they were together .  Then each of them was asked how much they would like to see during the next sexual contact their partner experienced orgasm, and how much effort they are willing to apply for it .  It turned out that the most interested in their partner orgasm men after the last sexual contact not seen with the girls or wives .  Scientists have suggested that the way men seek to prevent a possible infidelity of their women .  A deeper explanation for this is that, perhaps initially the female orgasm was a need for the selective absorption of certain male sperm .

In primitive societies, people woman could engage in sex with many men in a relatively short period of time - and perhaps most likely to become pregnant from a man with whom she had an orgasm. Because of such a device primitive societies men are relatively large testes, and it produces a lot of sperm. For example, a male mountain gorillas, which have the whole harems of females, testicles are relatively small.

Other scientists, however, believe that the female orgasm has nothing to do with fertilization and is a kind of byproduct of the male orgasm.

Male Orgasm obviously facilitates ejaculation and thus procreation. Women also received a gift from nature, which does not bear any functional load. In support of this, scientists led by the fact that only eight per cent of women are able to get an orgasm during normal sexual intercourse and without additional stimulation, while the majority of men do it. Furthermore, women who have orgasms thus located closer to the clitoris vagina than most women.

The complex function - orgasm

Despite the fact that while it was not possible to establish a direct connection between the female orgasm Female Orgasm: A Guide for Women   and fertility, there are new data that give grounds for assumptions about the presence of such a connection. For example, it found that women who experience orgasm after sexual intercourse implies ago fewer sperm; In addition, uterine contractions are a major way of moving sperm into the uterus and fallopian tubes, one of which may be ready to fertilize the egg. The fact that the uterus contracts under the influence of the hormone oxytocin that is released after orgasm may be another argument in favor of a link between female orgasm and insemination.

Since orgasm is a very complex function that involves the autonomic system and requires substantial brain activity, it is difficult to believe that it can be completely useless.

Another suggestion regarding its function lies in the fact that, perhaps, it gives a woman the opportunity to subconsciously decide whether she wants to be fertilized specific partner or not. Studies have found that women are more likely to have an orgasm with those men who have the most symmetrical body. One of the most probable explanation for this is that an orgasm with a partner increases the chances of fertilization and the birth of healthy offspring as symmetrical body unconsciously perceived as a sign of a healthy genotype, and the asymmetry causes fear possible genetic abnormalities.

Imitation of orgasm may be unwittingly used to convince a partner that he is, in terms of genetics, high-quality male. In addition, so a pregnant woman can try to convince the partner that she is pregnant from him; and men is so important to know what a woman experiences an orgasm with him, just because he wants to support his paternity. This can be explained by the fact that the most important partner's orgasm for men, who for some time did not see their girls or wives. Of course, it should be remembered that an orgasm is now found other cultural meanings, but it is useful to bear in mind his biological roots.

Fish also imitate orgasm

Fish also can imitate orgasm, and it is related to the quality of the partner genes. This was the conclusion of the study the behavior of trout.

Fertilization in trout occurs outside their bodies - male and female sperm and eggs thrown into the water. Female ready to pairing rips a hole in the sand, he crouches to it, opens his mouth and begins to tremble and squirm. To her male swims up and start pairing. Their tremor becomes stronger, and about half of the male and females are released sperm and eggs. In the other half of the female makes movements which make females during egg release, but the emission occurs. This simulation can give a female trout opportunity to save their eggs for the males with better genotype. However, most often they mimic the release of eggs, when males during mating were not quite in the right position - perhaps it is an indicator of insufficient quality genes.

Maybe for the female fish, as well as for women, orgasm imitation is a way to control fertilization - which of course they used irresponsibly.

Causes

As for the conscious reasons for simulating orgasm, the most common cause of this is the desire to spare the feelings of the partner. Such women usually never talk to men about what they like in sex. Psychologists consider a strategy of behavior as a means to preserve relations and a way of avoiding difficult and unpleasant conversation with your partner.

Much less women imitate orgasm to avoid difficult conversations with themselves. They feel that they do not experience orgasm during intercourse, there is something wrong, and is a way of pretending to turn away from your own fears.

The main reason due to which women imitate orgasm, scientists believe the discrepancy between expectations and reality. This is confirmed by the fact that fifty-five per cent of women only imitate orgasm during vaginal intercourse; only eight percent do so during oral sex, and four percent - with manual stimulation. Cultural stereotypes make women expect orgasm during intercourse without external stimulation, and when this does not happen, many have resorted to hypocrisy.

In general, we can conclude that a lot of couples in their sexual lives are inflexible attitudes and practices. In fact, sexuality Nine ways to experience their sexuality   - Very rich and complex area that can not be reduced to achieve a certain outcome.