An old man's selfishness when age leaves its mark

November 28th, 2013

 senile selfishness
   The old men are somewhat similar to the children: they can be as straightforward, easily offended, naive and selfish. However, children are growing and getting smarter with age, the nature of the old man for the better does not change ever. Although senile old man's selfishness and parasitism quite natural to put up with their symptoms is not easy: the old man from the family requires a lot of patience.


Opinion of doctors

The human brain is aging as well as the whole body. Over time, some areas of the brain atrophy and this leads to changes in personality. In some cases, slowly but steadily developing diseases that lead to the complete disintegration of mental activity - a total dementia. Such diseases are usually caused by genetic, external factors can only speed up or slow down the process.

Pick's disease can begin at the age of fifty years, and even earlier with changes in personality - a person becomes sluggish, apathetic, it loses the ability to generalize and understanding. Over time, patients are not critical to himself, lost the moral system.

Several different developing Alzheimer's disease Alzheimer's disease - can be slowed down, it can not be cured  Alzheimer's disease - can be slowed down, it can not be cured
 : First, patients complain of progressive deterioration of memory, but the self-criticism for a long time is saved. Later, even more memory impaired, patients are no longer navigate in space, to recognize loved ones, and after - and himself in the mirror. Over time, the person is completely destroyed.

The most common disease of old age - dementia. The disease develops gradually, at first - imperceptibly. Traits patient exaggerates become more pronounced: a healthy critical turning into suspicion, frugality - in stinginess, persistence - in obstinacy. The rate of mental activity is reduced, marked thought disorder. It appears penchant for moralizing, selfishness, resentment, conservatism. At this point, close to notice that the character of the old man's spoiled, but do not see this as a manifestation of the disease. The disease is progressive: as the coarsening of personality even more changes in nature, the problem starts with the memory, the patient ceases to be oriented in time and space, the personality splits.


Normal changes

It is difficult to distinguish between natural variation of human personality in old age and manifestations of the disease: this is why dementia is seen usually only in the late stages. Of course, the diagnosis can only be a doctor, the problem is similar - to follow closely the changes in the behavior of the old man and, if necessary, to show his psychiatrist.

With age, even mentally normal people often become more selfish: the fear of impending death causes them to take from life all that is possible. Alas! Opportunities are not the same that before, and this fact is not easy to accept the elderly. Hence the whims and demands. Furthermore, the elderly did not enough attention. The natural changes in the nature of old age are:

  • Conservatism;
  • Rejection of the new;
  • Selfishness;
  • Self-centeredness;
  • Capriciousness;
  • The tendency to moralizing;
  • Difficile;
  • The narrowing of interest.

All these symptoms are unpleasant, but natural. But if there are memory impairment, untidiness, confusion, inadequacy - need to see a psychiatrist. Unfortunately, senile dementia can not be cured, but you can slow down the progression of the disease, and symptoms - weakened somewhat. Treatment is best to start at the early stages of the disease.


How to behave close

To live with an old man - a difficult test. Even those who previously have plenty of character in old age may become unbearable. What can we say about those who are, and was so selfish? Parents require their grown-up children the attention and constant care that the children themselves have become parents, not taken into account. Sons and daughters knocked down, trying to please the old man, but only faced with the vagaries, reproaches, resentment.

Many people resent the behavior of their elderly parents and their growing egoism. But we can not demand too much from the old: the changing nature of physiologically caused, and the willpower to change themselves older people simply can not. They can not change the situation and close all that is left for them - is to be patient.

Do not waste energy on resentment injustice of life and attempts to correct the behavior of human aging. It is better to remain silent and to smile a little more and try to bring joy to the old man - because his life there are very few joys. At the same time, of course, do not become a slave to the old man and subjugate him all his life: the victim is still not fully appreciated.

Therefore, the old man must talk softly but firmly. Strive to please him, but not to indulge the whims and resist manipulation. Of course, to bring the old man's useless, and yet it is not necessary to indulge manifestations of senile selfishness. If signs of senile dementia, it is better not to risk it and do not leave the old man alone: ​​the orientation of the lost person can do anything - burn the house, home to invite criminals to get away in an unknown direction.

In no case should not leave young children under the care of old and grandparents, if there is reason to assume they develop senile psychosis. Keep in mind that dementia is often accompanied by an increase in sexual desire with a tendency to various kinds of perversions. In addition, elderly people may be itself too helpless to act as a nanny.

If you can not provide the care and control of the old man, it is advisable to think about how to hire a nurse. In the later stages of the disease it makes sense to continue treatment in the hospital.

Maria Bykov

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  • Family Psychology

"If a woman ..." - through the eyes of men

August 12, 2007

 Women Men
 You always said that men - untamable creatures from another planet, all the desires which are formed in the pants. But the truth is that it is much more similar to us women than you ever thought. He just does not know how to recognize you in this.

If your man is not in what does not produce that what's really thinking, do not torment yourself with doubts. In this article you will learn the seven major masculine "if", for us, the women.

 "If a woman ..." - through the eyes of men

Please stop asking him to be more romantic

He never buys you flowers, not leads you to restaurants and generally not fit to hold a candle to the ideal romance Romance - trap for women?  Romance - trap for women?
 , Which met your sister. With what he took? You yourself constantly remind him about it.

He would like you to admire what he does for you

Yes, he does not buy you roses for no reason, but what about those days when he takes over the morning walking the dog, especially to give you sleep in? Or those evenings when he sat stoically with you on the romantic comedy, actually burning with desire to look at the people running away from the computer monster.

Sometimes we girls so hung up on the list of "conventional" expressions of love that we forget about the dozens of other (sometimes much more original!) Ways of caring. Unfortunately, flowers, dinners in luxury restaurants and small shiny gizmos in velvet boxes are sometimes fortune. Maybe your boyfriend wants to surprise you all this, but just can not afford it.

Expressed his admiration for his care (and himself!), Thanking him for the dead man to have a spider in the bathroom. The mere fact that he would not do it, shows his sincerity towards you.

 "If a woman ..." - through the eyes of men

Please stop configure a known failure

You allow yourself a second piece of the pie, and did not see the gym here for several months. Favorite pants they cover the hips much stronger than before, but you still can not believe those extra 5 kilograms, which you persistently reported scales. And you decide to ask your question to the man from whom any member of the male begins migraine I have a migraine. What to do?  I have a migraine. What to do?
 ... "Honey, I'm fat? "

He wants to get away from the line of fire

Now - and forever change these settings. You know that better, sat up late at work and did not have to cut bangs at home ... But do not tell your man. These cues you give him a choice: lie or risk forever be your unfeeling log. This habit does not help a harmonious relationship!

Believe me, it is quite safe solution - to assume that no one but you will notice a small pimple on the nose or a couple of extra kilos. But the solution is more dangerous - to talk about their doubts anyone. Where reasonable to take corrective measures - the most.

If you feel a little out of shape, "donate" his sports club membership card or replace the stair lift, but in any case, do not force the young man to tell you what you want to hear. Sending him a twofold message, such as "Be honest, but only if it does not offend me," you make him feel insecure, and myself not to get rid of complexes. In addition, a very big chance that he will not even notice your plump thighs ... as long as you do it yourself it will not tell!

He wants you to take it for what it is

Do you love your man, but his style of dress, hairstyle or passion 'Star Wars' cause you shudder? He - a great guy and you agreed to meet with him, hoping to transform these small disadvantages for you.

 "If a woman ..." - through the eyes of men

Please stop trying to change it

Of course, it's normal for partners - to change under the influence of each other, but do not expect to do it on purpose. It's disrespectful - to force a person to give up what is dear to him. When starting to meet with you, he said he likes to go to football on Sundays, do not be offended if he rejects the idea of ​​a Sunday picnic just for the two of you.

Rasstantes with the desire to remake and listen to that man by whom he is actually. His habits, values, lifestyles have a huge impact on future relations. If he says he does not want children, not a "plan" that he changes his mind. And if he likes loose pants, instead of recriminations think if you can combine with them.

Treat your man so you will not only avoid conflicts, but will save up your nerves. Think about how much effort requires change your own habits. What can we say about the other person you do not know until the end?

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  • male psychology