Psychosexual development of children three to seven years: interesting questions

The three-year child reaches the third stage of sexuality Nine ways to experience their sexuality   classification of Freud - genital, when the kid gets pleasure from the act of urination. Due to the anatomical position, irritation fluids, cleaning and wiping with the hygienic care, random excitations of a sense of fun, which is capable of producing these parts, inevitably drew the attention of the child at an early age.

Interest in the genitals, the pleasure of the act of urination and defecation child three to five years - no more than a desire to balance (as in all other cases) the representation of the object or phenomenon and representation of others, especially adults. And here there is a paradox: what a pleasure to the child, is unacceptable from the point of view of adults.

Then the child gets caught in a dilemma: to suppress my curiosity and ignoring the ban adults experience the fun secret. Often the baby is trying to find an answer to the burning question as to help parents and yourself. It is therefore very much depends on the position of the parents. How do they respond to questions about the baby: tactfully and comprehensively with the installation or impropriety on the affected child? Well, if mothers and fathers can not find a middle ground, that is, to meet the children's curiosity and cognitive needs of the child in accordance with his age. And bad if unsatisfied curiosity added sharply negative reaction of certain adult child themes and child left alone with their questions.

Therefore, parents should prepare for the conversation to the topic of sex education just like to talk to any other important topic. Knowing what to expect from a child in a particular age, you can be better prepared for his question. Also, no harm will know what kind of behavior is typical and normal for children aged three to seven years.

Psychosexual development of children three to four years

Main characteristics:

• Children three to four years wondering where babies come from.
• They explore your own body and showing interest in the body of other people, both adults and peers. At this age, children begin to play "in doctors' and family, portraying mom or dad (it helps to internalize gender roles and promotes gender identity).
• Children show interest in the genitals, they want to understand what their body is different from the adult body.
• During this period, the girls formed a close relationship with his father, and the boys - with the mother.
• As soon as a child begins to understand the difference between behavior that is permitted in a public place, and the behavior, not intended for prying eyes, he has the modesty.
• Many children at this age "play" with his genitals, touching themselves, especially when under stress How to beat stress? Create an oasis   or emotional arousal.
• Children three to four years are often overly concerned about urination and defecation process and use of the word "toilet" theme.

Psychosexual development of children five to seven years

Main characteristics:

• At this age children is expanding circle of friends, so they have more issues, including sex.
• The child has a need for privacy, especially while bathing and dressing / undressing.
• Children five to seven years, often used foul language, words with sexual connotations or value (basically, to provoke a reaction adults).
• They are increasingly interested in differences between boys and girls.
• Communication with the mother of boys and girls - and his father is weakening. The child no longer wants to "marry" or "marry" only for mom or dad. Boys come together with her father, the girl - her mother.
• Among this age group extended masturbation. Tell your child that there is nothing wrong in the fact that it touches their private parts, but it can be done only when he is alone.

The main issues that concern parents

• Q: What if a child masturbates?

A: Masturbation is perfectly natural, and most of the children touch their genitals out of curiosity or for pleasure. Do not make the child feel guilty because of the natural interest in his body. However, parents should instill your child that this activity is not intended for prying eyes, and wank Masturbation causes prostate cancer?   only behind closed doors and not in the store or garden.

• Question: daughter playing "doctor" with your friends, what do I do?

Answer: In five or six years, children begin to play "hospital" and "doctor", exploring each other's bodies. They sometimes take off her panties and show themselves. Many adults like to see, experiencing shock and tend to punish. However, that in no case can not be done, otherwise the child decides that this is something shameful, bad.

If you should let your child for this occupation, please use this opportunity to start a conversation about the human body, its characteristics and needs. Be sure to explain to his son or daughter, that their body belongs only to them, and without their permission no one should touch it.

Parents must understand the importance of sex education for the child's safety, because it can be inserted into holes pencil, stick or other object, and cause a serious injury. When children play "hospital," worry is only if one or more members over the rest of the game.

• Question: My four year old son loves to dress in the clothes of her sister and play in the "family." Does this mean that he was homosexual, or they may be in the future?

A: No. Games of this kind help the child learn more about the world. Preschool children often try on different roles, including depict the opposite sex.

• Question: how to behave parents if a child uses bad language?

Answer: First of all, you need to check whether the child knows the meaning of the words that are used. Often children use the words heard from adults without knowing their exact meaning. Did you explain to the child that it is a particular obscene word, he will never use it. Explain the son or daughter how to behave better when he feels resentment, anger or irritation, what words can say, and that obscene language offends other people.

• Question: how to respond if a child sees sex on TV?

Answer: Many parents are concerned that children from an early age witness the sex and violence that falls upon them on television and the Internet. Moreover, almost all TV programs and commercials have sexual connotations - they played upon gender roles, attitudes and stereotypes, perception of their own body, more attractive and natural expression of emotion Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code And often openly show the sexual aspects of the relationship.

But you can turn these disadvantages television in their favor, to improve communication with the child. Try to keep a child watching television alone in your presence, and explained to him all the contentious issues: sexuality, family relationships and values.

• Question: Where do babies come from?

Answer: If a child is interested in where babies come from, he needs to respond seriously and clearly: my mother in a place where the child can grow. First, it is very small, but gradually grows and when it becomes larger, it is separated from the mother.

Correctly enter the parents that reveal the mystery of procreation from afar. For example, all year round on the window to grow, for example, cucumbers. The child who is interested in how you have kids, you can trust pollinated cucumbers. Here parents in a relaxed atmosphere talk about the male and female flowers, their fertilization and gradually informed about the birth of children.