About the place is legendary, it dominates the minds and feelings, makes lose appetite and suffer. In fact, revenge is not much different from love - that feeling makes you think about the object, which are directed so yl emotions, no less than a favorite. The only difference is that one feeling creatively, and the second is destructive. Let's talk about how useful or harmful sites, can take revenge, but you can do without it, and what are acceptable ways of revenge, and what does not.
What is revenge?
Revenge is often compared with the disease. Indeed, it is able to capture the man so that makes it a slave who can not think of anything else except of the feeling that it has absorbed.
Revenge is destructive. It makes the experience the most negative emotions that you can imagine. Vindictiveness characteristic of different people who are united by a painful and overly inflated ego, intolerance of other people's shortcomings and inability to forgive. Of course, there are exceptions, and bring to thoughts of revenge can be very good-natured person, but if you do hurts the answer you want too much, it is worth pondering.
But sometimes revenge is able to coerce and great achievements. There are cases when people are out for revenge become successful, famous, in spite of their oppressors.
The reasons for vengeance quite a lot. It is a serious offense, betrayal, ridicule. However, some - who manages to take revenge on the people of the blue for no apparent reason. Desire for revenge often pursues unsatisfied and uncertain people. For them, this is another way to show the world its significance. This may be due to the fact that the identity of the person for a long time suppressed, and the infliction of pain response satisfying.
Sometimes the cause is the envy of revenge, then to deal with this feeling becomes very difficult, because one object of envy may be replaced by others, and the person will remain in the same place.
The most common cause is jealousy
Jealousy and what to do with it
. Revenge makes people jealous to make a variety of things, some of which are forced to suffer a very large number of innocent people.
Some people try to cope with this feeling, others groom and nurture it.
I must say, most rational reasons for no revenge, excluding situations that happen in our lives is quite rare.
Fight off or indulge her?
This question each must decide for himself. To get started, answer yourself, whether inflicted injury or caused trouble so great that it deserves to you wasting their time and energy? It is important to know exactly what will be the result of your actions, you will get the satisfaction, or will be forced to suffer even more? Do you prove to someone that going to prove? And whether you get the offender to repent?
If you truly look at the situation, the answer to most of these questions is "no." In this case, you get the desired satisfaction or further tighten himself into the maelstrom of hatred?
To resolve any problems, there are other ways that are often more effective than retaliatory attacks. Sometimes a normal conversation or ignoring annoy people help resolve the conflict and to get rid of the desire for revenge.
If you retaliate, how?
Since you do decide to retaliate against the offender, be careful. Never do something over and above what was done to you. If you have a neighbor angry that regularly fills your ceiling, it does not mean that you have to burn her apartment.
Choosing a method of revenge, and the law should take into account. Sometimes people go too far and get more problems than they were before their revenge launched.
Revenge should be targeted. You should not take revenge on all and sundry, and if the perpetrator offense is impossible to touch, it is possible that this idea should be abandoned altogether.
Think about how you will look the part. Would you be even more petty, rude and brutal than your abuser? Would you like such a reputation?
If you predict the result of revenge can not, it means that the undertaking is better to postpone or forget about it altogether.
The main thing is usually experienced intriguers: do not rush. Revenge - a dish best eaten cold, so less likely to make a mistake.
If for a moment forget about emotions
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That beset the offended person, would that revenge is not the only way out of any situation. Revenge is not only causes suffering a few people, but also humiliates the one who tries to intrigue. Really strong people are always on the strength to forgive the offender, or simply ignore.