Sexuality child should be brought up, with particular attention to this, and not to let things drift. Lay the right foundation sexuality Nine ways to experience their sexuality   It is very important because children nowadays grow and grow very quickly, and no time to lose. It is better to teach children proper behavior than to reap the benefits of bad.

Objective: To teach the child to perceive his body the way nature intended it.

"Zone of the iceberg": at this stage you need to learn to focus on the child's physical capabilities of his body. A healthy body at this age allows the proper development of thought and spirit. In the early stages of growing up, the problem is that the children have learned to appreciate what nature has given them.

What is the norm:

• Questions about the difference between the sexes
• Self-stimulation in the people and in alone (masturbation with imaginary imagery is not considered)
• Naming genitals (potty training)

The main objectives of the development phase of the child

• Emotional rapprochement with mother
• Emotional rapprochement with his father
• Identifying himself with his father (for boys) or mother (girls)
• Respect for the father (for boys) or mother (girls)

How to cultivate the sexual health and the integrity of this age

• Be open to dialogue with the child.
• Be consistent.
• Please.
• Expressing joy you performed the role - a woman or a man, a husband or wife, breadwinner or homemaker.
• Tell your child to create a model of family and marriage, and procreation (father and mother conceive a child after getting married and love each other).
• Strive to ensure that the child is eyeing as little people. A child becomes attached to people, and the more often you change them, so much the worse for him.
• Teach your child to name all the parts of his body and explain their function. Do not use slang.
• Explain to your child what are the main differences between a man and a woman.
• Teach your child hygiene and develop their sense of modesty and appropriate boundaries of behavior.
• Do everything your child says Paul (call him "my boy" / "my girl").
• Affirm the identity of the child, regardless of gender.
• Express joy, fear and respect for family life, pregnancy, birth of children, weddings and so on.
• Be sure to explain to your child the difference between the good, bad, embarrassing and irritating touch (there are many books that describe the touch). Most of the stories should be aimed at preventing sexual exploitation and abuse. Parents should help the child learn how to describe the feelings that cause a variety of touch.
• Respect the "no" to the child and make sure to do it and others (his brothers and sisters, other relatives, peers, teachers, educators and strangers). Do not make him feel uncomfortable in the relationship.
• Begin to inspire his adopted culture in your views on the sex of the person, shy, sexy, beauty, respect, relationships.
• Answer the child's questions (in a language they understand) if he is old enough to ask, even old enough to hear the answer. Optionally child to explain all the details, but if the child asks something that he is not allowed to know the age, note whether there was with him something (sex game, or operating).

What to avoid

• Waste indiscretion in the house.
• Slang words and euphemisms substitute words for body parts
• Jokes about body parts of children or ignorance with regard to the age of children
• Expressions of shock, shame when children repeat slang words, masturbation, and other issues. Necessary to satisfy the curiosity of a child calm explanation and correction, and does not cause him a feeling of disgust.
• Viewing child provocative and explicit scenes in movies, cartoons on TV. New studies have shown that children under two years of the visual image is very adversely affected, and children of preschool age in general can grow with the focus of attention disorders.
• Tickling kids without their permission
• Focusing on the exterior, especially the girlish
• Hugs and kisses all in a row
• Acquisitions trendy tempting trinkets

What to do if you are concerned about your child's development

• Keep a record of your experiences: the date, time, event, and the child's response to your comment
• Talk to those who are looking after your children, and collect their observations
• Collect data on family relationships
• Talk with your child's pediatrician
• Talk to the children's therapist

Choosing Christmas gifts for children - not an easy task. If you ask the child directly about what he wants, he can say - on a typewriter (dolls, soft toys), but did not explain what kind it was. Some parents go with the child to the store, and offer them to choose their own gift. However, many still believe that the New Year's gifts for children should be a surprise, and buy them yourself.

Glasses

A child can convince even drink fresh juice of cucumber and spinach, if you pour it into a beautiful glass. In the new year, you can give a set of multi-colored glasses or glasses with the image of what the child likes - cars, space ships, animals, and so on.

A set of crayons

Crayons (as an option - crayons, markers, watercolors) - a great gift for a young artist. It is possible to add albums to draw, it is desirable - larger format than the standard A4.

Superhero Mask

If your child likes movies about Batman, Spider-bangs and other superheroes, give him a mask of your favorite character. If it is possible - just buy a suit or just the cloak, the child can transform into their characters. If you make such a gift, be prepared for the fact that your house from time to time to walk around a little Batman, and even try to fly with more or less high furniture.

Puzzle

In specialty stores, you can find a puzzle, designed for different age groups - including, for pre-schoolers. Many of them are very compact, so that they can be collected in a way - it would be very useful if your kids while traveling like every five minutes to ask when you will already be in place. If you give a child a puzzle for the first time, help him understand what to do with it - does not solve the problem for him, but just explain what should be the final result.

The toy that fits in the hand

Such toys are developing great imagination, and often the favorite of children. You can give several toys, and the whole family to play home-puppet theater.

Clay

Once the clay has been almost every child, but today his popularity falls - probably because of the interactive toys that can do many things instead of the child. However, nothing can replace a blank sheet of paper or clay bar from which you can create anything you want. Molding of the clay perfectly develops fine motor skills and, of course, creative thinking. If the child is already accustomed to computer games and toys, which are able to move without assistance, at first it is not very clear what to do with the clay when it fashioned something with it.

Classic wooden toys

Such toys - horses on a stick or on wheels, simple machines, tractors and ships from the tree, and so on, can give both young children who will use them to their destination, and the older children, for which they will be nice souvenir. Among adults, there are plenty of fans of wooden toys. They are made from environmentally friendly materials, are very beautiful, simple, and precisely because of its simplicity of providing a space for the imagination of the child, that they can not match the colorful and modern toys, make sounds and flashing colorful lights.

Skateboard or inline skates

To begin, of course, better in-line skates, but if you really want your child to ride a skateboard, you need to give him that opportunity. For such a gift is to make verbal instructions (and better - written) safety: Explain to your child where you can and where you can not ride a skateboard, and rollerblading on the distance you need to stay away from those who are riding side by side, and what to do in case he or someone else was injured.

Ski or snowboard

It is more suitable for winter gifts, but usually more expensive than a skateboard or rollers. Give them is if the child really wants to engage in skiing or snowboarding deal with, and if he has the opportunity. If it is already engaged in such sports, and he needs new sports equipment, ask him for advice, what needs to be buy - he certainly understands this better than you.

Apron

If your child is taking a keen interest in what happens in the kitchen and is committed to help you, give him a nice, funny apron. And by the way, aprons can give not only girls - some of the boys, too, from an early age interested in cooking, and do not need to keep them in this hobby, advancing arguments such as the fact that it is "men's work". It can add an apron and chef's hat, mittens tongs suitable for the size of the child.

Drum

Many children - from toddlers who just started going to preschool age children - are delighted to give a gift on New Year drum. This is an inexpensive and safe gift, but it does have a drawback - the parents peace will be broken whenever the child wants to start to beat a solemn march.

Piggy

Piggy bank in the form of a thick pink pigs or any other animal - a wonderful gift for a child who is already familiar with the figures, and begins to understand what money is. Give the treasury should be a small "seed capital" into the bargain - put a handful of coins into the bag and let the child himself puts them in a piggy bank.

The ball-Grasshopper

Large bright ball with ears - a wonderful vehicle for a young child. Jumping on it at home, the child will get a lot of fun, and simultaneously develop virtually all muscle groups.

A set of beads

If you are growing a little fond of clothes and jewelry, she may like a set of beads, from which you can make a variety of necklaces and bracelets. Do not give these sets of children under three years - they can easily swallow the beads. Also, do not buy your child small beads - we need enough large beads to the baby could string them on a thread without the help of a needle.