The crisis of adolescence: do not interfere with the child you hate

November 15, 2011

 The crisis of adolescence
 Teenage crisis, perhaps even more than the famous crisis of three years old, which is quite logical reasoning: a child of three years going through a crisis in the family, and the teenager has been extensive contacts and less controlled by parents. The mortality rate among adolescents is very high, because they explore not only the world, but also the limits of their capabilities, often overestimating their strength.

 The crisis of adolescence: do not interfere with the child you hate

Psycho-physiological background of adolescent crisis

Teens do not believe anything on the floor, preferring, as well as three-year, check all its actions. But if children are three years old all the time are in the eyes of the parents, who can assess the risk of an action that is going to execute a child, teens prefer to communicate with their peers and parents are sometimes not even aware of what he is engaged in the afternoon, so can not adjust his behavior and in time to prevent the tragedy.

Most children of this age are killed on construction sites, drowning, fall under the machine. They ride on the roofs of trains, clinging to buses, trying to make a flight, getting into the technical compartment of the aircraft, swim "to the dispute" wide ponds and jump from building rafters. Teens try to construct explosive devices, to collect a homemade rocket, explore the limits of their own capabilities. Adolescence - the age of the first deep love: passionate, direct and brutal, that does not forgive grievances and misunderstandings that cause children's suicides. It is in this age of each child defines his place in life, his social position, which then does not change throughout life.

 The crisis of adolescence: do not interfere with the child you hate

Manifestations of adolescent crisis

Unlike other age crises, the crisis of adolescence develops gradually, manifesting growing disobedience and insolence .  Therefore, parents are almost always difficult to say when exactly their docile and just "golden" child turned into a hairy and snaps .  The child, as well as in three years, is beginning to show its independence and self-sufficiency, but it appears it is already quite different: it is not subject to the rules of conduct of any family or school - can not sleep at home, coming home closed in his room, skip class, join the youth group or sect .  Teenagers are very vulnerable and internally very experienced what happens to them .  If the child is insolent and snaps - it still comes in contact with adults and it is not so bad .  But if a child is locked in a separate room and prefers to remain silent - this is a difficult situation .  In any case, the crisis of adolescence is due to the very nature of man, to overcome its results are very important for identity formation, so parents need to be prepared for it .

 The crisis of adolescence: do not interfere with the child you hate

How to help the adolescent to overcome the crisis

Often, a child and did not understand what was happening to him, so a crisis is a big surprise for himself .  Parents are more experienced people need to prepare for this crisis and do everything possible to become a starting point for a successful life of their child .  Preparing for a crisis starts with the birth of a child .  Parents should seek to ensure full understanding with them at all stages of its development, to be friends, those people that everyone will understand, forgive, and always - like .  You need to be aware of all the events happening with the child and around, know his friends, inviting them to visit, organize joint activities, which, indeed, would cause interest among teenagers .  Very well, if at this age the child will be an idol, with correctly oriented behavior, as it is it will be a child, building his life, and parents may be the idol of a neighbor's child, but not his .  The role of the idols can perform older brothers and sisters, but more often they are people who often show on TV .

If a teenager began to show uncharacteristic behavior for him - not in a hurry to climb him with questions, as this will only aggravate the situation. Please visit the school, talk to his friends - find out the cause and proceed carefully.

Most importantly - always love your child and understand it, then the energy of adolescence will be aimed at the track, which will bring the child to the position of leader, and about the crisis, no one remembers.

Svetlana Shimkovich

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Teenage suicide - can it be prevented?

August 29, 2011

 Teenage suicide
 Adolescence - dangerous. Under the influence of hormones and excitable teenager becomes hypersensitive. Sometimes a small conflict in the family or at school for a child entered into a state of depression Depression - a little more than a bad mood  Depression - a little more than a bad mood
 . Often such states end suicide attempts.

 Teenage suicide - can it be prevented?

Who are the most vulnerable to teenage suicide

Suicide (suicide) - this is an intentional deprivation of life itself. Some teens are at risk of suicide in the case of getting into a difficult situation. First of all, teenagers are prone to depression (low mood), abusing alcohol, drugs and toxic substances, had seen the suicide or death of someone from relatives, perform poorly in school, girls, after rape or during pregnancy, as well as talented, ordinary teenagers that do not fit into society.

Included in this group of adolescents at any time may be in a situation that will give a boost to suicide. They are characterized by increased vulnerability and a feeling like an outcast in society - this is what drives them to suicide.

Suicide occurs in three forms:

  • true - when you have a really solid teen suicide intent, as a rule, attempts to work out, but if it interferes with someone, then repeated; This form is typical for boys;
  • affective or sensitive - attempted suicide under the influence of momentary strong feelings; if the suicide attempt fails, then most likely it will not be repeated; typical for the girls;
  • demonstrative - suicide as a way to attract attention; Such attempts can be repeated, but rarely (if only occasionally) do not end with a true suicide; More typical for the girls, but also found among boys.

 Teenage suicide - can it be prevented?

The reasons for suicide among adolescents

Often the true cause of suicide among adolescents is a sense of isolation from society, feeling not like others that leads to loneliness and the feeling that no one understands. This can cause a persistent depression (depressed mood) and the desire to leave this life. These teens may include adolescents with family history (children of the mentally ill, alcoholics, drug addicts), has received a heavy trauma, having a non-standard sexual orientation and therefore feel themselves flawed.

Affective form of suicide often occurs under the influence of conflicts in the family, the school, a group of teenagers of the conflict on the basis of love, amid the strong influence of art (for example, under the influence of a movie or a book).

Demonstrative form of suicide is characteristic of adolescents with hysterical personality traits that are in any way want to attract attention.

 Teenage suicide - can it be prevented?

Predsuitsidalnoe behavior

True suicide often matures in adolescent and does not itself issue, however, if you look closely, you can see what is not quite familiar traits in his behavior. Sometimes they are almost invisible, if a teenager by nature inclined to solitude, nevertheless, his subconscious is almost always a signal of impending suicide Suicide in terms of the psychiatrist - can it be prevented?  Suicide in terms of the psychiatrist - can it be prevented?
 . They may issue a further deepening of consciousness, sometimes - accidentally dropped word about suicide. Says the true intentions of the reluctance to discuss the issue with others. However, even a teenager with the true intentions of suicide always subconsciously hoping that something suddenly change for the better, and he will not have to do that.

Adolescents with affective and demonstration forms of suicide, as a rule, do not hide their intentions. Adolescents with affective behavior subconsciously want to be stopped, and hysterical personality make statements about suicide deliberately to impress others.

Under the influence of the internal readiness for suicide may vary appetite: those teenagers who he was good, do not eat anything, and adolescents with poor appetite suddenly begin to eat everything. The same thing happens with sleep Dreams: how to understand our dreams  Dreams: how to understand our dreams
 : Active adolescent begins to sleep for days and languid lose sleep.

School performance drops, the appearance of a teenager with the true intentions of suicide shows complete indifference to her, completely lost interest in the environment. Teens try to get my affairs in order, often barely familiar to people handing out expensive items. Sometimes they are very bitter and can respond to any aggression the most innocent remark.

 Teenage suicide - can it be prevented?

How to prevent youth suicide

To do this you need to know the true feelings of a teenager, you have to delve into his life. Parents, noting that with the teenager going on that something was wrong, should call him on the frankness and the possibility of support, even if it is in the family something wrong or committed a crime.

Parents should help young people in overcoming life's obstacles. The teenager needs to know that it accepted and loved for what it is, and no matter what happens in his life, he has to tell someone about it. The same goes for true friends: if a teenager talks about suicide, they should give him moral support, as in the case of well-sounding threats of suicide notify relatives of his friend.

Galina Romanenko

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