- Stress and anxiety in children: how to protect the child's mind
- The loss of self-control
- How to help
- Effective tactics
In tough times, many parents ask themselves an important question: how to help the child to adapt to the difficult conditions of life and better withstand the anxiety and stress. Never before anxiety and stress in children have not reached such a high level as today. Childhood - a carefree time of joy and fun, but unfortunately, most of today's kids know about it only by hearsay.
Assessment of the situation
Every day, children are exposed to this psychological attack on television, on the billboards and the pages of the press; they learn the most terrible, terrible news, which is not always withstand even the adult psyche. The day was a success, if the evening news is not informed about the latest explosion, earthquake, plane crash or other disaster, all with colorful details and essential image of grieving relatives or victims themselves.
Also, do not forget that the parents have quite a few of its own problems, such as illness of loved ones, friends go relatives, ever-present, albeit illusory, security threat, the threat of loss of employment and livelihoods (very real), the failure to find the money for payment of a loan or other debt, insecurity, inability to receive quality medical care because of its high cost and so on and so forth.
Even if you belong to those few lucky ones who do not know the problems mentioned above, do not hurry to rejoice: most likely, they are encountered many families in your area, they are not hearsay know the parents of classmates your son or daughter, so they concern you too.
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Especially at home, in the family, when they feel close to all of your and you can relax, give vent to frustration and anger. Busy own lives and experiences, adults often underestimate the sensitivity of the child and his ability as a tuning fork to capture the emotions of others (especially loved ones, and especially negative) and respond to them.
Of course, it is difficult to fully protect the child from emotional breakdowns adults - senior unnoticed, it can lurk behind the door. It is especially difficult with teenagers who carefully hide their feelings and behave as if nothing had happened, even if they are in the soul of a real storm is raging.
But forces parents to put dam to the flow of negativity that is poured daily on their child, they can help him cope with stress
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and overcome anxiety. In this article we will look at anxiety as a psychological phenomenon, but also give parents some practical advice on how to reduce anxiety in children if it can not be completely avoided.
Children's stress and anxiety causes
To begin, consider some research. Scientists conducted a study involving several thousand children of different ages, from five to seventeen, and found that stress and anxiety have increased significantly since the 1950s. Moreover, one study showed that anxiety level has increased so much that a typical student of the 1980s suffered from anxiety and psychological distress is much stronger than his mentally ill peers in 1950.
Scientists have long known that anxiety in infants can lead to depression. They predict that in the coming decades, the percentage of cases of depression in children will only increase, because the anxiety - is the "first signs" of depression and if not overcome, the consequences can be dire.
Also, it increases the level of alcohol and drug abuse, as anxiety usually leads to the use of psychoactive substances. Anxiety affects not only psychological but also physical health of the child. Studies have shown that in people suffering from increased anxiety
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, There is a higher mortality rate, which is associated with an increased risk of asthma, the development of irritable bowel syndrome, peptic ulcer disease, inflammatory bowel disease
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and coronary heart disease.
How can parents help the child, prone to anxiety?
If you notice that your child is prone to be upset more than other children, we must act. It is best to restore the peace of mind of the child helps to organize the action, action plan, for example, a clear daily routine: eat, homework, do housework, watch TV, go to sleep in a child must clearly set time, and over the weekend he has to find kakoe- something fun.
So, if the Tuesday dinner you usually eat spaghetti, and then with the child watch your favorite TV programs, should be adhered of the existing regulations, in order not to cause unnecessary anxiety in the child. Always keeps his promises, even if they relate to small things - your son or daughter should be confident in you. For example, if you promise your child that five minutes read him a bedtime story, do not make him wait - be in his room in five minutes, but do not expect that he will fall asleep himself, not waiting for you. If in the evening you will have an unplanned thing, try to do it before or after contact with a child, so as not to disturb the well-established routine.
Let us assume that the child has a serious cause for concern. Consistent and expected actions of parents - one of the best means of protection from the "accumulation" of the child stress, which may eventually lead to the breakdown of his physical health. What actions can be regarded as "successive and expected"? For example, you can sit next to a baby on a sofa or in a chair and sit with him in an embrace for a while, or make baby a gentle massage of the back, feet, or scalp. If desired, a child can get a massage you - the main thing that was physical contact: it will calm your baby and reduce his anxiety.
Physical contact with the parents, their affection and tenderness, is of great importance for the peace of mind the child's psychological comfort. It facilitates communication between parent and child is the proof of your love and support. Turn off the evening news with your child and discuss the events of his day: what happened at school, what he saw and learned.
During this call, you can identify unreliable information that needs to be refuted, or it could disturb the tranquility of your child. Children are often told to "adult" topics in which few understand - money, the financial situation of the parents, illness and sex - and do not need to have the child there is a dangerous delusion that could disturb him.
If you belong to a religious group, bring your children to the service; If a child has a favorite older friends or relatives, more often in their company. Try to expand the circle of friends of the child, while respecting his psychological comfort.
Most remind son or daughter that, in spite of everything, he could always count on you, and everything will be fine. The man survived several wars, the economic crisis and other shocks, and even in the most difficult times of life went on as usual.