There are times when the relationship reaches a point that either you or a partner, or both feel that you can no longer continue the relationship. But even if this is so, perhaps, even the bond between you is strong, and you both want to keep the relationship, but do not know that it was done to save them. If your relationship is going through a difficult period, but you do not want to lose a partner and want to establish contact with him, you can follow these tips.

Be aware of the causes of the crisis in relations

In most cases, couples break up because of the fact that they are having difficulty, or they feel that they can no longer be together, but people are rarely at the same time find out the true causes of problems. It is important that both of you to find out what the root of the conflict, have understood the true picture of what is happening.

Be reasonable, rational and calm

When a couple is going through difficult times and conflicts, there are a variety of emotions, which can interfere with one or both act rationally. Because of this, people often say and do things that only worsen the situation. Although it may be difficult, it is important to try to remain calm and think reasonably and rationally speaking. If your partner does not try to solve the problem with you, you should take responsibility for the preservation of peace in the pair. You must patiently listen to a partner before starting to speak. And do not say what you may later regret.

Give each other a little space

If your prudence and serenity do not help, and you will see that the relationship is not shifted from the dead point, try to spend some time apart. It may be hard, but it will really help you. Many people react too emotionally, when they have difficulty with a partner and want to immediately solve the problem, but it's definitely a bad way. The only thing you can achieve - the partner will feel that he was under pressure, and this will only lead to further conflict. Try to spend some time apart - give the partner and yourself space for emotions Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code   and thoughts.

Agree to disagree

The next time you start rational discussion with a partner, be prepared to disagree with your partner. It is very important that both remembered that, as a couple, you still are individual with their own beliefs and concepts. Agree that the opposition in anything does not mean your incompatibility, and your uniqueness. You have to respect the differences and use them to build relationships, not try to change each other.

Find a compromise

Perhaps there are things that you would not want your partner to do it. But the truth is that you can not change your partner's personality and his hobbies. What should I do in this situation? You need to find a compromise, "neutral territory" - areas where you both feel comfortable and confident, trust each other and feel that you can save your relationship.

Work team

Storing and maintaining relationships require effort from both. If the partner is not trying to help in preserving the relationship, perhaps you'd better leave it for a while, until he decides whether these relationships are important to him. Sometimes the solution can be painful - the partner can decide to end the relationship. However, it is likely that the partner still understand how important you are in his life and gradually comes to readiness to work to preserve relations with you.

The key to success - patience

Do not panic. Relationship - delicate matter, especially when you are going through a difficult period. You can not fix everything in one day. Do not worry if the changes take longer than you expected. No one can predict how long you will need. The only thing that will produce results - it is the effort and patience. If you try and work to resolve the problem, results will not wait too long.

Take your time

If you are with a partner able to resolve the conflict, do not rush. If you will seek as soon as possible to return to normal, the same problems that caused the crisis in the relationship, there may be again. Talk with each other about what happened and how you will continue to prevent such situations or to solve them. If you have both decided to keep the relationship, you will not need to rush - nobody leaves.

  Compliments - is an amazing component of social life. Right to compliment can give so much positive energy, a lot of things start to happen after that, as if by magic. It can ease the tension between people and place them gently together. This is possible if a compliment was made correctly and properly adopted. Each person needs to be able to do something, and more.

Compliments (not counting the very template) appear where there are situations and efforts praiseworthy. That is a good compliment - a measure of thoughtfulness and awareness. A person who wants to learn how to communicate effectively, you need to cultivate attention to the changes taking place around them.

When a person sees something that he wants to praise, to compliment it is two steps - to clothe thought in words and express it out loud. From compliments everyone wins - and he who speaks and the one who receives them, and those who are simply there and listen (even if they do not rejoice over the other, you probably remember exactly how to say a compliment).

How should and how not to make a compliment?

Be careful with the choice of a compliment

Think about what's important to the person you are going to praise. "Cool biceps" - a compliment is likely to enjoy a person involved in bodybuilding, as a university professor can not appreciate this comment (of course, there are exceptions). If a person is engaged in intellectual work, it is best to celebrate compliment his intellect; if a girl watches a fashion and loves clubbing, mark her clothes, hair and nails.

Briefly and clearly

Such compliments like "Good job! "" We worked great! "Appropriate in many cases, do not require the voltage of the mind of the speaker, but produce a significant positive effect.

Compliment - it is not flattery. And vice versa

All nice to receive compliments, but - sincere. Most people dislike flattery causes, and those who like it, you would not want to please. So it is better not to talk of compliments than flattering.

Do not compliment your boss - even if you are sincere, many people in leadership positions, to automatically accept compliments subordinates as flattery and see it for selfish motives. If you want to praise the boss, say something good about it to his assistant. In 90% of cases he mentions it in a conversation with the head, and it will not be perceived as flattery.

Compliment compliments from strangers

Very often, when he heard something bad about familiar to us the person we are anxious to give him those words. Someone benefits from it? It is doubtful, and it is not necessary to transmit such messages. But if you hear a familiar speak well, be sure to tell him about it. He will be pleased, and he will be grateful to both you and those whom you quoted.

Sometimes it is better to understand than to speak

In some cases it is better to speak phrases from which man himself will make a conclusion that will compliment it. For example, say, "Wow, you lost the puzzles in five minutes, and I had to wrestle before lunch" rather than "You're smarter than me." Or, for example, I met a friend who recently had cosmetic surgery, say "How was the surgery? "- Paused for a moment, and they themselves give the answer:" I can see that very well. " Person understands what you mean, in this case you do not have to use a standard and an unspecified "You look so good! "

The fact that a person is easier to believe the findings, which he made himself than the information that was presented to him in the "ready-made".

The right words at the right time

If you've ever played before a large audience, which follow your every word, and then finished with a still pounding heart, heard in his address: "It was great! "- You know exactly what it takes to compliment at the right time. There are times when it is absolutely necessary to make a compliment. Even then you will find that your performance was not great, you did not consider those words offensive because at that time it was necessary to speak only words. Within five minutes, they were not welcome. This, even very sincere compliment, worth hundreds of sincere, spoken at the wrong time.

And how to accept compliments?

If you heard a compliment, you respond in the spirit of "Oh, I was just lucky," "Well, actually it's an old dress, what's there to see," "Nothing in particular," that soon you will notice that all rarely hear compliments in his address. But you do not want? Thank when you praise - from the heart. And smile, because people make a compliment, I make you happy, and it happened.