Virtual romance: Pros and Cons

November 7, 2013

 Virtual romance
   Modern man often can not imagine life without the Internet. The network working or looking for work, get information and share their experiences, find friends. And almost half of the users of the web is recognized that they had at least once been a virtual romance. But should start these novels?


What is a virtual romance

Virtual romance - a relationship, which in real life does not exist. Some believe that such novels appeared only when mankind began to use the Internet. But in fact, virtual relationships existed before, just lovers used for communication is not email, and plain.

Sometimes novels called virtual relationships that were fastened on the Internet, and then continued in real life. But this is not entirely correct: This is virtual virtual novel from start to finish, from the time dating to the termination of the relationship.


virtual reality

Once the network two people meet. Word for word the conversation tied, and it appears that they have a lot in common. The Internet is easy to be honest, because the communication is almost always anonymously. Not seeing the interlocutor can tell him their innermost secrets, or, conversely, to pretend to be another person and fun to live someone else's life.

Interesting conversations are taking more time, they become more and more openly. And now, the interlocutors inevitably begin to fantasize about each other. No matter how honest flirting Flirting: Ten amazing facts  Flirting: Ten amazing facts
 Most importantly - a distant and unfamiliar, in essence, a person begins to seem the closest, the most interesting, the most beloved ...

What happens next? One of two people meet in real life or not found. If the meeting has occurred, then we can talk about the end of a virtual novel: the relationship continues in real life, or even end. If we meet, for whatever reason, failed, the novel continues to evolve in a virtual reality.

But the possibilities of virtual relationships are limited. At some point they just stale one of the partners, and then he just disappears, at best, saying goodbye. To the abandoned partner if he belonged to the relationship seriously, this could be a real tragedy.


Advantages of Virtual romance

What good virtual novels? Without a doubt, this is one of the most convenient ways to communicate. It costs nothing: no need to waste time dressing before a date, do not have to shell out for flowers and gifts. Suffice it to pay for internet and some time to sit in front of computer.

Virtual romance - a great tool for increasing self-esteem, for example, after a painful breakup. Speaking on the network, you can hone your ability to flirt and enjoy compliments Compliments and their meaning: do not mistake the words  Compliments and their meaning: do not mistake the words
   virtual lover.

It is necessary to follow some safety rules that will not lose the head of a virtual novel:

  • Should not be taken too seriously to what is happening. Virtual relationships - it's just a game;
  • Do not get too reassuring your virtual partner, his feelings should be spared;
  • It is very unwise to report to his new friend some information about his place of residence, work, pay and where to keep their savings;
  • And once again: do not take this affair seriously.


Roman or self-deception?

Novels in the network can be really dangerous. People are immersed in the imaginary relationship and gradually lose their real communication skills. A person becomes a hostage to the computer, real life does not interest him. As a result, when the virtual novel ends, unhappy love life loses its meaning: it can lead to a nervous breakdown.

Why virtual romance does not become real? The reasons can be many. For example, people from the other side of the monitor is not ready for some reason to the relationship. He can just have fun and put on the unsuspecting virtual friends some psychological experiments. He might not be those for whom it is. He can gather material for a book or an article in a magazine. Finally, it can be quite real friends, who decided to make a joke and so wanted to use the network to find out the information for their own purposes.

One should not forget about the scams that under the pretext pull money from their online lovers. Fraudsters are well-established pattern: first they asked a very small amount of the debt, and be sure to return the money on time. This is followed by another request for more than a large sum, and its return to the wait is not necessary: ​​the virtual trickster disappears forever. Sometimes we are talking about small amounts, and the victims of fraud do not even go to the police. But there are cases where the luckless lovers gave a virtual scams everything they had.

Some virtual partners are not interested in money. They may be motivated by a desire to take revenge on all the individuals of the opposite sex or the desire to assert itself. In any case, a virtual partner can cause serious psychological trauma to the victim.

Often people addicted to virtual relationships, unmarried. From banal betrayal of wife or husband such a relationship characterized by the absence of physical contact. But the world has already been many cases where the wife learned about the "innocent" man in the novel network, filed for divorce. Men virtual novels their halves also are highly frowned upon.

Flirting online - is not just a substitute for a real relationship. In some cases, virtual novels lead to very real problems and even tragedies in real life. Therefore, before you enter into this dangerous game, it should be good to reflect, and whether it is in order.

Maria Bykov

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How to forget a loved one - start a new life

August 18, 2011

 forget a loved one
 The traditional happy ending Hollywood melodramas, fairy tales Children's stories - the child can understand the language of symbols  Children's stories - the child can understand the language of symbols
   and not entirely truthful stories of friends makes women hope that this too once relations necessarily last long and, like a fairy tale, it is the logical end result - a perfect wedding. And when this tale suddenly becomes harsh reality, many women find themselves completely unprepared for the painful parting. However, there are many ways to go through a break and forget a loved one - that's just for the majority of them will take time, effort and, most importantly, the desire to really forget.

 How to forget a loved one - start a new life

Parting: First aid

In the first few days after breaking up, no one will expect you to appropriate actions or even thoughts - so it can afford to how to cry. Giving vent to emotions Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code  Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code
   the best supporters in the company, even if not quite sincere, friends or girlfriends .  By the way, the men in this respect even more difficult - in fact usually "real men do not cry" acted for centuries and today acts .  Therefore, a man who experiences separation will likely not be able to experience a little with what incomparable pleasure from typically female behavior "complain to the vest" - male friends expected him to say "forget it, it's not worth it" .  But women have a place to roam - in the company of her best friend over a cup of tea or something stronger, and can give way to tears, and deploy many hours of discussion on what turned out to be a villain throw you a man, and remember the best moments of relations .  Memories - a separate issue: the enemy of anyone trying to survive the separation and forget a loved one .  In the memories of how well you have been together, you can spend the first few days - and then, no matter how beautiful they may be, it is better to abandon the memories forever .  It has long been known that continuously scrolling in the memory of the best moments have broken relations with the pain of separation is virtually impossible to cope .  The best way to same - give yourself installation forget to postpone the memories in the farthest corner of memory and ruthlessly suppress all attempts of the brain once again reminded of former partner .

 How to forget a loved one - start a new life

We are friends

Formula inevitably appearing in Hollywood melodramas and soap operas mediocre, to disgust is often used in everyday life - as an attempt to smooth out the negative impression of the painful explanation of the relationship, followed by separation. Stay obtained only from friends happy units, and in the majority of cases of violation of self-esteem and a clear lack of interest from another or transform relationships in a constant exchange of reproaches and quarrels, or lead to a complete cessation of communication.

Termination of every kind of communication - it is the natural result of separation, however, agree, it is difficult to admit the first day after a painful break that this man will disappear forever from your life - even as a friend .  Rehabilitation after breaking up, especially if the relationship was really serious and long, can be considered as rehabilitation after illness - which means that short time it is possible to make concessions for itself .  For example, if the mind does not want to resign ourselves to the fact that the gap is final, it is possible to agree to the installation of the notorious "remain friends" .  Even if later it turns out that the former partners of friends does not work, the belief that people still will not go out of your life completely and immediately, will survive the first weeks after the break .  You can even afford a little bit of self-deception in the series "he realizes that he can not live without me, and come back" - most importantly, do not get carried away by the expectation of a miraculous return, which, of course, not likely to be, and move on to the main way to remember a loved one - fight fire .

 How to forget a loved one - start a new life

Fight fire

Parting is always painful as losing a loved one, and we're losing some part of myself, and the nearest public in general, man. One, perhaps the most unpleasant consequences of separation - a severe blow to self-esteem. And because one of the most effective ways to quickly forget once a loved one - is to follow the old folk wisdom "like cures like." The golden rule of "like cures" does not mean that, cried a week or two after leaving, you must immediately set out to find another candidate for the honorary position of her future husband. It is easy enough to just flirt - will allow the attention of men to remember that, in essence, on one man's life does not end, and significantly improve the self-esteem. And for flirtation Flirting: Ten amazing facts  Flirting: Ten amazing facts
 , It is possible to follow dating can turn into something more serious.

Tatiana Smirnova

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