What is aggression? Translation of the word is quite harmless: moving forward, but in our society the concept of aggression has a pronounced negative connotation. The child's aggression is considered a long and loud crying, and angry words to the other man, and pugnacity, and many other manifestations. All parents face child aggression - this is the stage of development of the child, and whether there will be a long time the aggressive behavior of the child depends largely on them.
The aggression of the child up to a year
A child under one year communicating with the outside world by means of shouting, a caring mother rather quickly learns to distinguish between what wants her child, listening to his tone. With two months children can grimace to show how they are dissatisfied with what to do with an adult, and the cry becomes emotionally charged. Negative emotions
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young child reinforces crimping body, shrieking, movements of hands and feet, later he can throw the toy or repel person against whom it is directed anger.
In many ways, the severity of this behavior depends on the behavior of the child's parents. Children will read all the information about the psychological atmosphere in the house and the attitude to it. If the parents are in conflict with each other, can talk in a raised voice, are hostile to the child, for example, due to the fact that he is unwanted, the child first months of life begins to feel acute sense of their own vulnerability and disadvantage. Next comes into play genetic mechanisms: the child can react fears the emergence of neurotic disorders (tics, jerks), and may try to counter malevolent world by aggression toward him.
Biting at this age, too many mothers are perceived as a manifestation of aggression on the part of the child, but this is not true. Just start at a certain time cut his teeth in connection with which the child experiences persistent discomfort in the gums, which forces him to chew on everything, including the mother's breast. In this case, the mother should just firmly but calmly tell your child that you can not do, and to remove the breasts from the mouth of the baby. Post it on demand, almost immediately, but if the situation is repeated - again all easy, but the breast did not give a longer period of time. Usually after three - five attempts at the correct behavior of the mother, the child ceases to bite. If the mother reacts violently: jumps, screams - a child can be fun, and then biting last much longer.
From one to two years
With children from birth to two years is required to speak the right language, not allowing even negative statements about third parties, since during this period the phenomenon of imprinting information, and the child will unconsciously copy the behavior of their parents' lifetime.
At the end of the first year of life - the beginning of the second, children begin to walk, and their activity increases many times. Interest them, first of all, the surrounding objects and people. All objects are within reach of the child will try "to the tooth". People interested in their otherness, difference from the parents. The child begins to actively explore the world. His aggression is at this age is primarily due to the inconsistent actions of the parents, when there are no clear boundaries and limits, the child is everything, and when, suddenly, there is "no" - it causes a storm of negative emotions on the part of the child.
Raising a child, parents must stick to only two rules:
- Block only what really threatens the lives and health of the child, and these prohibitions should not be much.
- If the prohibition is, it is always active, regardless of who is the child and what his mood.
Other actions of the child that the parents do not like, but do not threaten his life better transform, for example, can not tear the book and the newspaper - it is possible. However, the newspaper contains a lot of lead and is not a substitute for safe, many mothers give to tear the child a roll of toilet paper - it is soft and does not contain harmful contaminants, and the baby for a long time been on their own and develop fine motor skills. It's fun and he had to tear the book is unlikely to be.
As the child grows some restrictions are changed, but it is a natural process that will not be perceived by a child so badly.