Envy of her friends - the phenomenon is so widespread that many people even consider it a prerequisite for female friendship Female friendship - Myth or Reality? . Her best friend, which is always in distress rescued and supported, suddenly darkens, if you share with her pleasant news? And if you give her an invitation to the wedding, and then disappears from the horizon? Most likely, the reason for her jealousy.

Types of envy

It is believed that envy is divided into black and white. White - this is not even envy, but a kind of admiration. And besides - a strong incentive to develop. For example, a girl wants the same shape as that of a friend and goes to the gym. White envy - a rare phenomenon. Normally, the fetus is not jealous of daily effort, and some random and unfair, according to the envious, luck.

It is much more common in black envy. Zavistnits not trying to accomplish the same thing and her friend. She's just trying to accomplish this nullify girlfriend. Sometimes only in words - "Just think, career! Any if desired, make a career, but it's still a loser inheritance and real women devote themselves to the family. " And sometimes, in fact - and then the tricky "girlfriend" spreading gossip and plotting, which can greatly hinder career one that is the object of envy.

How do you know that a friend is jealous? Usually it is immediately noticeable. Instead rejoice the success, she frowns, angry and takes the conversation to another topic. And then he begins to speak, that the success of these very small. Some friends behave differently. They readily agree that the friend has achieved a lot, and in general - well done. And immediately start complaining about your life and yourself. Of course, sympathetic girlfriend immediately begins to persuade itself and already talking about their achievements "nothing special."

What to do with zavistnits

Of course, faced with envy is always unpleasant. Of course, you can console himself with the fact that people just do not envy anything of itself is not, and nothing in life have achieved. But that is little consolation because of the fact that someone has angered and upset other people's success, it is still unpleasant.

In some cases, you can offer assistance envious. For example, if she is jealous of a happy marriage, why not introduce her to someone of your friends? Or at least help make a profile for a dating site? Unfortunately, in most cases, jealous girlfriend something that can only be given initially from nature. No advice will not make your eyes more, and longer legs and advice on make-up can only frustrate even more envious.

You can abstain from stories about the achievements of a friend, and instead just cry and complain about life. It would seem, nothing complicated, but there is a risk in such a way at the same time to convince myself that life really is not good. Needless to friendship with this particular girl of such victims?

If she just grows dark, barely zaslyshit about the imminent wedding or a career off of his girlfriend, it is still possible to survive. In most cases, simply do not focus on the events of his life, which are the envy friend. Do not brag, do not show off, in a word - to behave politely and not "beat on the patient."

Much worse, if the girlfriend starts talking bad things and talk about injustice (someone all, and someone - no). It is better to stop such talk immediately. Just tell envious that you do not want to discuss this topic. Or willing to accept that the world is unfair, and nothing can be done about it. Aerobatics - posokrushatsya of the injustice of this life, and admit to envy ... a friend. It is possible that it immediately cease to suffer, knowing that her friend, a happy mother of three children, secretly jealous of her chiseled figure and lush hair.

The saddest situation - when she goes into action and begins to spoil the life of a friend. For example, inadvertently "let slip" her boyfriend's infidelity favorite. Or hint authorities that her friend did not deserve promotion. These demarches are usually perceived as a betrayal - and rightly so. Better with such envious immediately break off relations because to be friends with a man capable of meanness, not too wisely.

What do those who feel envy

Everyone knows that envy - a bad feeling. So most people studiously deny that ever experienced such feelings. If you wish, you can convince yourself of anything, including that envy - it's just a keen sense of justice. Yet this should not be done. Dishonesty destroys with a personality. It is better to admit to myself that the unpleasant feeling - it is envy. Do not worry, everything is sometimes envious of someone, just to envy it was not destructive. And this should work with their feelings.

To begin to accept the fact that the world is really unfair. All people are different, and the lives of everyone develops in different ways. There's nothing you can not do: just live their own lives, not paying attention to other people's lives.

It should be remembered that many tend to exaggerate their achievements and to hide the problem - so it may well be that the object of envy is not so happy as it seems. You can try to feel sorry for (of course, only to himself) girlfriend for something - usually envy is incompatible with compassion.

A great way to get rid of envy How to get rid of envy: work on a   - Take their own lives and to achieve something significant: if not in the same area as the girlfriend. Of course, grow a foot or find new parents is unlikely to happen, but to get an education, to grow up in the country's largest pub or find a good husband - completely. As a rule, a person who is busy building his own happiness, no time to be jealous. For envy you need a lot of energy, if this energy forward in a different direction, to ensure that envy does not remain and effort.

Maria Bykov

In modern society, adopted certain rules of etiquette and the rules of this acquaintance on the street is considered to be bad manners. However, changing time, changing with it the foundations and morality. As they say in matters of love liberated the French, you can meet anywhere, it is important is not the place and the method. How to meet a girl you like on the street, while being a cultured man?

Classics of the genre

Reception "DST" or "How to go to the library, shops, stadiums ..." enjoyed even grandfathers of our grandfathers. Ask a strange girl innocuous question, ask her for using the simple - something to hold, suggest, advise - can any man. If the treatment is done with an open smile, friendly and positive, it is unlikely she will pass in silence or answer rudeness if it is adequate. At the same time the stranger held a great introductory test for sanity and creativity. If you go to a beauty touch and start up a dialogue, to continue the relationship in several ways.

If a man is very busy and late for a scheduled working meeting, enough to express sincere regret that today will not be able to continue the acquaintance, explaining the reason. Male and female psychology - two poles. What is clear and understandable to the man, a woman can have a variety of options. Because you need to immediately place all points over «i», propose specific time and place of the meeting. For further communication is needed the phone number, the main task at this stage of dating - to get the desired contact.

If at this moment a man is ready to assign a first date, I am careful to ask the girl and take her to the nearest cafe for a walk in the park or to the movies. No Trapped complexes, innuendo better not to allow the development of relations between two people always starts according to certain laws of the genre.

Mysterious and unique

Many men prefer a first meeting stun Man, to make it a lasting impression. What a way to choose a dating service - classic or creative, everyone decides for himself. Much depends on the female psycho: someone demonstratively leave the venue, someone clapped their hands, and someone skeptical smiles by sending in an attempt to discover a museum of women's victories. However, the part of man a woman is always waiting for something romantic, unusual, unique, because every girl is a princess at heart, seeking her knight on a white horse.

Give your favorite girl with a bouquet of flowers pinned business card, refer to the stranger as a friend, "Hey! "Soil oneself chocolate, ice cream and asked to remove his new passion cell phone from his pocket, took out his handkerchief to - all these methods have repeatedly tried dating men.

A great way to see featured in the film "Tambourine, Drum" (Russia, 2009), where the main character is dating in the cafe he liked librarian, giving her my passport. When asked why he does it, the hero says that now it will be an occasion to learn everything about it, and return the document at the meeting. Do I need to deliver important documents first counter, everyone decides for themselves on their own, can, in the end, instead of a passport to give the working folder or a book on the condition of their return at the appointed place.

Defeat or luck

If she did not accept the invitation, do not drive themselves into a corner and suffer from denial. It is likely that it did not have the time, she was upset about something, preoccupied, agitated or she already has a boyfriend. The reasons for rejection can be set, they should not be raised to a power, and to develop a sense of self-doubt. To overcome the fear of failure can not only suggestions and the internal auto-training Auditory training - you start to think positively? But also gain experience. Quite a few times to offer to meet the girl, that it has become a habit. However, in all good measure: rolling cynicism - the other side of the coin, the enemy of success.

In this world, everything is balanced and where a certain beauty waiting for that dream Dreams: how to understand our dreams   She sees her man, the main thing - to find a way to it, do not miss the bustle of everyday life in the most important meeting in the life.

Jeanne Pyatirikova