Will the birth of sexual life? Of course, yes. Do not expect that the sexual life will return to normal immediately. Men in particular tend to rely on it; many young dads think the wife will be able to have sex almost immediately after returning from the hospital. They are badly mistaken.
As you know, childbirth - the process is very traumatic for the woman. The passage of the child through the vagina - this is how small (or small) burst inside her. Gentle vaginal tissues inevitably damaged, there are sometimes gaps occur, and to restore the required week.
And that's not all: a birth brings with it significant hormonal changes and emotional stress
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. As a consequence, very few women and very soon after birth experienced an unprecedented sexuality
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. So be ready for it, and be patient.
When can I have sex again?
It is believed that a woman can not exactly have sex until postnatal examination, which is usually carried out within six weeks after childbirth. But even after that she may feel that is not yet ready, especially if the itching and pain in the vagina weak still from time to time remind yourself. Ask your doctor how safe it will be for you to sex and in any case not resume sexual activity until, until you feel that psychologically prepared for it.
Easy sex games are allowed and before the doctor will allow you to return to a normal sex life. Here, the most important limitation is that a man can only relate to the external female genitals. And again, cunnilingus is strictly forbidden as long as the woman does not pass postnatal examination. Risk carry infection after birth is very large. If you follow this rule, these games will benefit both partners, which are lacking in certain intimacy.
Does the child care in the sexual life?
Of course, influenced. Many young mothers, especially in the first months of baby's life, constantly feeling very tired from lack of sleep
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and the need to always stay close to the child. At this time, the man may feel that a woman pushes him, giving his full attention to the newborn. As strange as it may sound, well, men can subconsciously jealous of their women as their children.
Another change is that the men who were with women throughout pregnancy and during childbirth, begin very different, with great respect, to treat the female body. This is often reflected in the fact that they better understand the needs of women and the changes that occur with it.
However, some, thankfully, few men, what they saw during delivery produces a depressing effect. Someone feels guilty for being the favorite has experienced so much pain; someone can not live without hostility to think about sex. In most cases, this phase passes quickly, but this is not always the case. In this case, man should seek the help of a psychologist.
To create a home atmosphere of trust and mutual respect, it is necessary to discuss issues as they arise. It is important to occasionally spend time together alone, otherwise there is a risk to begin to perceive each other only as a parent a child together. Leave the child with grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, hire a babysitter and enjoy each other.
What happens to a woman's sex drive after birth?
Most women do not feel a special interest in sex, at least for a few weeks after birth. The main reason for this - a simple fatigue. If labor were long and severe, the woman may be a fear, even unconsciously, that she becomes pregnant again. Generally libido returns in two to three months after childbirth; If it does not, consult your doctor.
First sex after childbirth - how to make it right?
First, you should start when both of you are completely ready. Secondly, we must begin cautiously. If possible, choose a time when you are not too tired, and when the child is most likely you will not be disturbed (for example, after you put him to sleep).
Because of hormonal changes the vaginal mucosa and excitement in some women remains dry up to three months after childbirth. It is not necessary to treat hormonal therapy instead try lubricating gels.
Do not forget about contraception - to get pregnant again can be a lot faster than you think.
What if the woman does not appear desire to have sex?
It occurs quite often. Sometimes the lack of interest in sex is a sign of postpartum depression
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. If the woman constantly feels depressed, she needed to see a doctor immediately. It often happens that people in this state do not notice that something is wrong. Then, on a visit to the doctor should be a real partner.
Hormone therapy, capable woman to return the libido exists, but the feasibility of its application is still debate.
The most important thing to remember both spouses: a baby brings changes in all spheres of life, including in the sexual sphere. Therefore, be patient and get ready for discovery.