Will the birth of sexual life? Of course, yes. Do not expect that the sexual life will return to normal immediately. Men in particular tend to rely on it; many young dads think the wife will be able to have sex almost immediately after returning from the hospital. They are badly mistaken.

As you know, childbirth - the process is very traumatic for the woman. The passage of the child through the vagina - this is how small (or small) burst inside her. Gentle vaginal tissues inevitably damaged, there are sometimes gaps occur, and to restore the required week.

And that's not all: a birth brings with it significant hormonal changes and emotional stress How to beat stress? Create an oasis . As a consequence, very few women and very soon after birth experienced an unprecedented sexuality Nine ways to experience their sexuality . So be ready for it, and be patient.

When can I have sex again?

It is believed that a woman can not exactly have sex until postnatal examination, which is usually carried out within six weeks after childbirth. But even after that she may feel that is not yet ready, especially if the itching and pain in the vagina weak still from time to time remind yourself. Ask your doctor how safe it will be for you to sex and in any case not resume sexual activity until, until you feel that psychologically prepared for it.

Easy sex games are allowed and before the doctor will allow you to return to a normal sex life. Here, the most important limitation is that a man can only relate to the external female genitals. And again, cunnilingus is strictly forbidden as long as the woman does not pass postnatal examination. Risk carry infection after birth is very large. If you follow this rule, these games will benefit both partners, which are lacking in certain intimacy.

Does the child care in the sexual life?

Of course, influenced. Many young mothers, especially in the first months of baby's life, constantly feeling very tired from lack of sleep Dreams: how to understand our dreams   and the need to always stay close to the child. At this time, the man may feel that a woman pushes him, giving his full attention to the newborn. As strange as it may sound, well, men can subconsciously jealous of their women as their children.

Another change is that the men who were with women throughout pregnancy and during childbirth, begin very different, with great respect, to treat the female body. This is often reflected in the fact that they better understand the needs of women and the changes that occur with it.

However, some, thankfully, few men, what they saw during delivery produces a depressing effect. Someone feels guilty for being the favorite has experienced so much pain; someone can not live without hostility to think about sex. In most cases, this phase passes quickly, but this is not always the case. In this case, man should seek the help of a psychologist.

To create a home atmosphere of trust and mutual respect, it is necessary to discuss issues as they arise. It is important to occasionally spend time together alone, otherwise there is a risk to begin to perceive each other only as a parent a child together. Leave the child with grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, hire a babysitter and enjoy each other.

What happens to a woman's sex drive after birth?

Most women do not feel a special interest in sex, at least for a few weeks after birth. The main reason for this - a simple fatigue. If labor were long and severe, the woman may be a fear, even unconsciously, that she becomes pregnant again. Generally libido returns in two to three months after childbirth; If it does not, consult your doctor.

First sex after childbirth - how to make it right?

First, you should start when both of you are completely ready. Secondly, we must begin cautiously. If possible, choose a time when you are not too tired, and when the child is most likely you will not be disturbed (for example, after you put him to sleep).

Because of hormonal changes the vaginal mucosa and excitement in some women remains dry up to three months after childbirth. It is not necessary to treat hormonal therapy instead try lubricating gels.

Do not forget about contraception - to get pregnant again can be a lot faster than you think.

What if the woman does not appear desire to have sex?

It occurs quite often. Sometimes the lack of interest in sex is a sign of postpartum depression Depression - a little more than a bad mood . If the woman constantly feels depressed, she needed to see a doctor immediately. It often happens that people in this state do not notice that something is wrong. Then, on a visit to the doctor should be a real partner.

Hormone therapy, capable woman to return the libido exists, but the feasibility of its application is still debate.

The most important thing to remember both spouses: a baby brings changes in all spheres of life, including in the sexual sphere. Therefore, be patient and get ready for discovery.

Sexual inadequacy can have a variety of reasons, but most often occurs on the background of sexual inadequacy neuroses that a person receives as a result of stress. Such conditions may be supported by the current life situation and proceed very long.

Components male sexual cycle

The male sexual cycle is divided into four components, each of which is related to the anatomical form and performs its specific functions:

• Neurohumoral or biological component - is associated with the deep structures of the brain and the endocrine system; it provides sexual desire (libido) and the excitability of the nervous system, regulating sexual activity;
• psychological (social) component - connected with the activity of the cerebral cortex, it determines the orientation of sexual desire, facilitates the occurrence of erection Erection - what hinders and what helps a man to be a man   until the introduction of the penis into the vagina;
• Erection (mechanical) component - its centers located in the spinal cord, and is the executive body of the penis;
• ejaculatory (fertilizing) component - it is the center of the complex structures of the prostate gland to the brain, providing the selection of sperm.

Men's sexual inferiority

Disorders of sexual function in men may have different origins. This inflammatory diseases of the genital organs (including infections, sexually transmitted diseases), and prostate adenoma, and hormonal disorders and neuroses.

In case of violation of neurohumoral component of the male sex drive is reduced to a woman, his level of sexual needs. This reduces the activity of the central nervous system and decreased production of sex hormones. The reasons may be different: tired of the constant partner or neurohumoral changes came under the influence of some kind of intoxication (such as alcoholism or drug addiction).

But the most common cause of sexual failure are part of the mental disorders of sexual cycle - neurosis. Neurosis - is functional (ie it can be changed), the nervous system, resulting from stress How to beat stress? Create an oasis . Sexual inadequacy often occurs against a background of neurasthenia (irritable weakness against the backdrop of some diseases or stress), and obsessive-compulsive disorder (obsessions, fears and actions). There are signs of a neurotic fear of sexual intercourse, suspense failure, dissatisfaction, inadequacy, depression. The severity of these disorders may vary from mild neurosis Neurosis - reaction to the nervous shock   with little sexual dysfunction to deep depression impotence Impotence - a female perspective on the problem   and a tendency to suicide. Sexual inadequacy may appear on the background of subdued or suppressed consciously and unconsciously needs, desires, memories, influence on the psyche. These disorders include: fear of masturbation complexes "little member" and imaginary impotence, obsessive belief that with their sexual performance is impossible to satisfy a woman, and so on. On this basis can develop sexual phobia (fear) before sexual activity, which often lead to a complete abandonment of her.

Violation of erectile function in men is also very common. The reason for this disorder can be a spinal cord injury, post-surgical complications, cardiovascular disorders, neurological diseases, hormonal disorders, metabolic disorders and other organic causes (in violation of the structure of the spinal cord and spinal nerves) character. The reason may be functional changes under the influence of stress and mental stress. They play the role of the age factor, obesity, alcoholism - all this violates the nerve impulses from the spinal cord to the penis.

Ejaculation disorders also occur frequently. It can be:

• Premature ejaculation is when ejaculation occurs before the start of sexual intercourse during the pre-sexual caresses the absence of an erection when ejaculation occurs just before the introduction of the penis into the vagina or when ejaculation occurs either at the moment of introduction of the penis into the vagina, or after the commission of a first movement ;
• delayed ejaculation - ejaculation comes only after a long and sometimes exhausting sexual intercourse;
• expiration of sperm - there is sexual stimulation and sexual intercourse;
• Ejaculation without orgasm.

The most common cause of ejaculatory disorders are inflammatory diseases of the male reproductive organs, prostate adenoma cancer, cardiovascular disease and old age.

How to get rid

Finding your way around, to eliminate the causes of the disease can only physician-sexologist or urologist. Himself to be treated all kinds of folk remedies is not necessary, because you can lose time - any running condition treatable with difficulty.

The sexual sphere - this is a very delicate mechanism, which has many components. Help yourself to the man himself can only strengthen the overall health exercise and hardening, and the rest need to provide specialist.

Galina Romanenko