I shout at her child

Once Natasha's mother left her to paint pictures in the living room while she went to the kitchen to make coffee. Exactly 90 seconds later she returned and saw that the girl from head to toe were depicted himself with a ballpoint pen. The object of the application of artistic talent Natasha has also become a new sofa with beige upholstery. My mother lost her temper, grabbed a sponge and began to scold the girl, and so loudly that the neighbors heard. When Natasha cried, her mother felt terrible shame, because she thought that struck my daughter traumatized for life.

Do not blame yourself: All parents sometimes lose their temper in dealing with children, psychologists claim. The good news is that if you occasionally venting their frustration and anger, can avoid more serious problems, as long as such conduct was not in the habit. Children need to see their parents in ordinary people, which is also characterized by emotions Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code And that mistakes. It is difficult to disagree.

How to rectify the situation if lost control and shouted at the child, when cool, apologize and explain what has caused you such a reaction. In the future, try to prevent such a development, and take a short timeout. If possible, close your eyes and slowly several times and take a deep breath - you will not only feel relaxed, but also show son or daughter an example of behavior in a conflict situation. If a child sees that you deal with anger so, it will use this technique to restore self-control when angry or upset.

I do not always encourage your child to share

It would seem that bad can happen when you bring the playground bright colorful rubber beach ball? But before Pasha to get it off the pallet carriage as he was surrounded by other kids, each of whom wanted to get the ball in his chubby little hands. "I do not give, I will not, I will not! "- Pasha screamed and struggled fought back when the children tried to take his ball. His mother used to encourage generosity and teaches children to share toys, but in this situation it just beat hands four boys, which is particularly strongly encroached on the ball Pasha. Did it help? Of course, but when 15 minutes later, she told the story to her husband, I felt ridiculous. No, well, except my mother five-year fight with the children?

Do not blame yourself: in two years, the child is just beginning to understand why you need to share. But no matter what age your child is, it is better not to bring to the playground or park toys that will attract the attention of other children. Even the most calm and generous children who love to share, may become agitated and frightened when other children are actively impinge on their favorite thing.

How to rectify the situation: do not upset the child (or yourself) even more, expecting too much. But try to teach the child to do when the next time he would play with the children at home. For example, you can set the timer. Explain that each of the presence of children can play with the toy until you hear a beep, and then moves on to a toy to another child. The intervals between the signals of the timer should be short - no more than one or two minutes. You can gradually reduce the time interval so that this activity has become a game and the child wanted to quickly give the toy to another.

Elementary school (children aged 6-10 years)

At this age, children are particularly interested in the pregnancy, birth and gender roles (boys usually play with the boys, and girls - girls). During this period, the influence of media on the sexual development of children. If parents do not provide accurate and complete information, the child's interest, he or she can turn to peers or older children with questions about sex, genitals and reproduction. The likelihood that the answers are correct and are used in this word are acceptable, very small.

If a school-age child asks parents about sex, they should become the initiator of the conversation. Previously parents tell the child that the man and woman "make the children", the child has to wonder how it happens. It is important to be honest, because children of this age can draw their own conclusions, if information is not enough. Common misconception school-age children: a child may appear, if a man and a woman will just lie down on a bed, holding hands, kissing or swim together in the pool.

The problems that may face parents of children of school age:

• Profanity. Children pick profanity and inappropriate slang from different sources: from TV, movies, friends, and, in particular, from the parents (who use swear words). Children often use these words without knowing what they mean. We must calmly explain to your child why a particular word out of place and offer the next time use more acceptable language.
• Inappropriate jokes. Often you can see how the children of this age giggle over the bawdy joke about sex, body parts, sexual orientation, but the question is, do they understand it? Children and realize that some jokes might offend others? Children often tell jokes of this kind, without understanding them, as well as profanity. It is important to serve the children a good example - do not tell inappropriate jokes, especially degrading certain groups of people. Tolerance and respect - qualities that can be learned. It should be easy to explain why the joke was inappropriate, and tell a good anecdote for children, which is also able to laugh.
• Birds do it, bees do it ... but why? Children sometimes see as pets, or other living beings exhibit sexual behavior. Some of this is surprising, it causes them embarrassment or disgust, but for most children to become interested, and even a little funny. After visiting the zoo's nine-year old children often discussing funny animal behavior during mating. If the children are interested in the behavior of such animals, then this is another opportunity to prove to them that sexuality Nine ways to experience their sexuality   natural. It is important to encourage the natural curiosity of children and provide them with accurate information and generate respect for procreation.

Period older children

As the children continue to "develop" their body to experience physical changes associated with puberty, understanding and support of parents will buy them all the more important.

When children reach sexual maturity, they are simultaneously experiencing the emotion and the fear of becoming adults, especially when they notice the appearance of hair on certain parts of the body, the girls begin menstruating and boys having wet dreams. Children spend a lot of time in thought, comparing himself with friends and concerned about the issue - "normal" they are or not. Children, especially early and late sexual development, subject to confirmation of its "normality", as they fall into unknown territory.

In puberty children greatly confusing the many physical and emotional changes, so they need to know what to expect in the coming months and years (even if they are shy about asking).

Candid answers to questions about the features of the baby male and female body, birth, love and sex can help parents to place him to a long and earnest conversations when puberty begins Puberty child - stages of a complex path . Responding to questions from children about the physical changes and sexual problems, perceiving them of course, parents can help children to form an adequate self-esteem.