Studies have shown that a close relationship of trust - the most effective factor in restoring recovering from psychological trauma. When life was changed once and for all, to overcome the pain of using only conversations impossible. Man needs intimacy, compassion and understanding of the other person. Without family support recovery after the loss of a loved one can not be.

Your loss is tragic. Close the person you lost, I am not guilty of any crime, and his death - is not a punishment for sin. Anger will rise and rise within you, when you least expect it: in the store when you're shopping, commuting to work, for dinner.

The first days of heavy losses

I look forward to the days of weeping and anger of the night. Be ready for it. At this time it is necessary not to withdraw into themselves, and to seek the participation of friends and relatives. If you do not have friends or loved ones - get them. Go to church. Talk with your child's teachers.

If you have any insurmountable difficulties, consult a psychologist or therapist who specializes in this kind of therapy. It will help you to return to the living world. Remember that your life, no matter how vain and senseless it may seem - is your only salvation. Because that's all you have.

If you have a child, and you have lost a husband or wife, remember, except you have a child no one left, you only have meaning in his life. He needs you. Try as soon as possible to return to a normal existence. Complete silence tears, hugs and general anger. If you go through the ordeal together, it will be easier.

Grieve, mourn your loss together and talk about it. Or just be quiet together. Do not wait for an answer from God or anyone else. There is no answer. Time - your best friend, time heals all wounds. Over time, your pain will become dull.

Insist that everyone in your family continue to live their normal lives. At the same time you have to develop a strategy for behavior that will help others cope with their grief. Your life has changed and will never be the same. It is your honor and the burden of responsibility to help your pet adjust to the new reality.

Behavior with baby

Maybe you're worried about how to talk with your child? The answer to this question is very simple. Be truthful. Be sincere. Adapts to the child. Do not tell me more than he wants to know. Listen to the hidden issues. Encourage your child's attempts to discuss this tragic situation.

Do not hesitate to seek the help of books and articles. Contact your child's intelligence. Older children are very concerned about issues of meaning. Direct the child and look for answers together. Do not leave a child alone.

Spend time with your child. Turn off the TV. Walk more. Play. Take a weekend or holiday. Go hiking or traveling. Walk along the beach on a cold autumn day. Embrace the child, do not hold back - he needs physical contact. Play together, play sports together.

Listen. Be attentive to your husband (wife) and children. Listen to what they want to say their behavior. Do not wait until they will voice their feelings - it can never happen. If this happens, stop, leave all their classes and turn out loud. Another chance you may not be.

Steps to peace of mind

Find opportunities for informal communication with adults. Spend more time with friends. Attend church. Take charity volunteer. Find ways to share your feelings with other adults

Find opportunities for informal communication for the child. Arrange a meeting with other children. Drive your child to the playground. Get involved in the school life of the child, to help him prepare lessons. Encourage friendships. Remember that the child, like you need to talk about their feelings with their peers.

Try to enjoy life. Listen to music. Play a musical instrument. Take painting or sculpting. Attend concerts and performances. Walk to museums. Artistic expression helps to survive the loss and return to normal life.

Spend more time in nature. If possible, Organize around the house, do some gardening. Picnic in the park. Master a new kind of sports such as rock climbing. Collect rocks, bird watching. Appreciate the healing power of nature.

If you have lost a loved one, to honor his memory. Gradually, his memory will be an integral part of your and interrupted this man's life continues in you. You will become a living monument to him and his memory will carry through the rest of his life.

Remember that the family always comes first. Your children, relatives and parents need you. Support each other. Treat each other. Try to keep all your loved ones have gone through this difficult period with minimal losses. Do not let anyone leave.

Logical-sensory introvert associated with the Inspector and Maxim Gorky. These are people who have a clear "black and white" view of life, without distinguishing between its various shades. Correctness, pryadok, streamlined way of life they are in the first place. They know how to work and achieve their goals.

Strengths - the logic and the ability to bring it started to end

Logical-sensory introvert Introvert - not breaketh himself   - Inspector is a man who likes order in everything. All his actions he is planning in advance. Positive as inspectors are able to work and bring it started to end.

The order in everything, from work to personal relationships and feelings most vividly characterizes the inspector. Can not tolerate slackness, nesobrannosti and non-moral norms. If you want to order ready to teach others by force.

Positive quality is performance and high demands on quality of work, both in relation to others and to themselves.

He appreciates the bosses know how to obey and work "under the leadership". But he requires unquestioning execution of their orders, and good performance from subordinates. Able to clearly organize the work of a small group, assign responsibilities, and monitoring work. It can act very strongly.

In his personal life is reliable, propensity for stable relations, so it can be the perfect family man. But he and the house can not tolerate violations of the order. About family care, but showing no emotion at the same time Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code Just trying to surround them with maximum comfort.

Completely devoid of fantasy, firmly on the ground, planning their lives and the lives of others. Brings up close, teaching them "correct" behavior. It copes well with any complex work that requires attention and punctuality. It can work as an accountant, mechanic, surgeon, successfully manages a small team. Personal gain it usually does not involve, however, it aspires to power, but not for a career, but in order to put things in order, to make the world a good and predictable.

Outwardly always collected, smart, neat and tasteful (but without the pretentiousness) dressed. He likes to surround himself with beautiful things expensive. Inspires confidence in others, it radiates reliability.

Weaknesses - the lack of intuition, uncompromising and a tendency to dictate

Inspector poorly developed intuition that does not allow him to understand people - the inner world of another person for him a mystery. This plan makes it all their activities, fear of others and are often applied to him coercion. In some cases it is useful, but if the power of such a person becomes uncontrollable, it can turn into a totalitarian.

Since the world that surrounds the inspector, it seems black and white, with no shades, he tends to force to impose moral rules, and to inspire others truths. This authority bosses for him is so indisputable that he does not notice his mistakes and blunders. Such servility sometimes borders on adulation, but differs from the latter in that the Inspector sincerely believes in the infallibility of the chief.

The desire to make everything and everyone as best as possible in accordance with existing standards in his world can lead to conflicts, both at work and at home. Here Inspector usually never goes compromise that leads to hostility and misunderstanding on the part of others. He persisted in doing good to people, teaching, instructing, forcing and controlling their activities.

The status can also be overly picky spouse implement their obligations under this truly believes that doing good. If a loved one does not understand him and offended, the Inspector did not react to it and hard bends the line. This can lead to the destruction of marriage. Moreover, the initiative usually comes not from the inspector, and from his wife and is often an unpleasant surprise for him.

More often than not closed, poorly converges with people, because they do not understand them, nobody reveals his inner world - it is difficult to reach. All this is further exacerbating the misunderstanding between him and other people. However, he likes fun entertainment, outdoor recreation and unconsciously attracted to bright, creative people who are able to make in his life, and a variety of emotions.

Logical-sensory introvert - a man capable of a lot and systematically work to achieve their goals, to take care of loved ones. But he is uncompromising and inclined to impose "order" by force.

Galina Romanenko