Each year, thousands and thousands of boys and girls meet with sexual perverts and pedophiles, with whom they met on the Internet. They deceive friendly conversation in the chat, e-mail correspondence and social networks. Often children believe that interact with their peers. According to numerous organizations for the protection of the rights of children, sexual abuse on the Internet pose a real threat to the child, the more so that the identity of the user on the other side of the monitor can not be determined immediately - it may turn out to be your kind neighbor or postman, and a convicted pedophile or rapist.

How are sex offenders on the Internet

There are many ways that sex perverts and pedophiles are using the Internet to ensnare unsuspecting children and teenagers, but one way or another include the manifestation of interest in the child. For example, waiting for the next victim pervert chatting or leave it through mutual friends in the social network, and begins to bombard her messages. Gradually sex offender wins the trust of the child and the location, as it is always ready to listen and support, assuring that no one understands the child better than he. In a situation where parents, teachers, friends and family members are a child with disdain or distrust, such support is more than necessary.

Sex offenders on the Internet and send their children pornographic pictures to keep them explicit sexual conversations. Although this "communication" may remain only on the Internet, many sex offenders are asked for a personal meeting. Unfortunately, parents often underestimate the sex offenders and do not realize that they can be extremely convincing - it is absolutely unnecessary to abduct a child to corrupt and corrupting it.

Why trust the children sex offenders on the Internet

All children and adolescents are looking for those who "understands". Transitional age - a difficult time, a time of solitude - I am sure you still remember it - and even the most popular among their peers, children often suffer from a lack of understanding of others. Therefore, when an adult man or woman (this also happens, though rarely) shows the child alive, sincere interest, and said that he, too, went through it, he understands it, the child seems to be that he met a kindred spirit, a close human.

Sex offender may look like an ordinary businessman or representative of any other profession. It can not be identified by appearance or manner of dress; often he even very attractive and popular with the opposite sex. Children and adolescents who do not understand how there are sex offenders and perverts on the Internet, they can easily become a victim, and get into a situation that will not be able to control, even before he could realize what was happening.

How can parents protect children from sexual abuse

The most powerful weapon against sexual abuse on the Internet - is information. No wonder they say: forewarned - is forearmed. Do not hesitate to talk to children about sexual abuse on the Internet and other problematic issues: sex, drugs, violence. A child needs to understand that a computer and an Internet connection - it is not only direct access to the achievements of civilization, but also to all the poor, all the vices, so he must be alert and cautious to enter into conversation with unknown people. Teach your child that people online are not always who they say they are. When a child does not know who - or what - waiting for him on the Internet, it is much more likely to become a victim of sexual assault.

What should parents do if the child was a victim of sexual abuse

If you suspect - or you know - that your child has been the victim of sexual abuse on the Internet, the situation is complicated. Obviously, you should contact the police, but you should be prepared for the fact that your child may take the side of the offender, and even stand on his defense. Therefore it is better to refrain from talking to the child as long as the situation does not sort out the police that he did not have time to warn of the danger of the offender.

Be sure to save the child's correspondence with the sex offender that you found on a home computer and print it out if it is possible. Understand that your child will not face criminal punishment for what he did; your child is a victim, not a criminal. In such cases, the police at the time removes the computer and transmits it to the study of the technical department (or similar unit), which experts try to find the culprit Internet. So before you give your computer, save it to an external drive all you need for the documents.

Finally, immediately consult a lawyer. Sex offender has violated not only federal, but also civil laws. If the correspondence suggests sexual exploitation (as is usually the case), you can start a lawsuit against him.

Sexualization - an assessment of a person only in appearance or sexual behavior when he portrayed solely as an object of sexual desire, and all the rest of its quality and characteristics are not taken into account. Magazines, TV, Internet, video games and music videos have a detrimental effect on girls. Sexualization may provoke dissatisfaction with their own bodies, depression and all sorts of eating disorders (bulimia, anorexia Anorexia nervosa - symptoms and effects on the body   and others). In addition, created in the image of the media can badly affect the healthy sexual development of girls.

The Phantom Menace

By the testimony of the sexualisation of society scientists refer dressing sexy young pop stars; dolls sexy dresses (especially dolls "Bratz"); clothes for children up to ten years; adult models, dressed in teenage style. As an example of propaganda sexualization can cause an image of Christina Aguilera in a school uniform to unbutton and lollipop. Scientists say that such images and promotion of women's sexuality have a negative impact on the development of girls.

Thus, the sexualization reduces man to his unique personal qualities to the level of sexual object, that is the thing for sexual use. Hardly information about the sexualization of society will become someone new, but this article should serve as a wake-up call for parents who believe that the media machine is useless to fight - the battle is doomed to defeat. A study conducted by the American Psychological Association found that the sexualization of girls negatively affects several areas of health.

• Cognitive and emotional consequences. Sexualization and objectification undermine confidence and a positive attitude towards one's own body, leading to emotional problems and violations of bodily perception, including shame and anxiety Anxiety - how to distinguish normal from disease? .
• Mental and physical health. Studies have linked sexualization with three of the most common mental health problems of girls and women: neurotic eating disorders, low self-esteem and depression Depression - a little more than a bad mood .
• Sexual development. Research suggests that the sexualization of girls leads to the inability of girls to develop a healthy way of their own sexuality Nine ways to experience their sexuality .

Parents: problem or solution?

According to the study, parents can play an important role in maintaining a sexualization of their daughters or protecting them from harmful influences, engaging in their education and sex education.

Studies suggest that parents may inadvertently contribute to the sexualization of their daughters. In particular, parents can instill a girl that her main goal in life - to look attractive, strive to be beautiful in all circumstances. As it is not disgusting, but we've all heard stories about parents who even pay for plastic surgery for their daughters, such as "give" them rhinoplasty or silicone breast sixteenth birthday. Agree, it leaves no doubt as to their daughters how mom and dad are appearance and vanity.

Before considering methods of protecting girls from promoting unhealthy attitude to appearance in the media, it is necessary to draw attention to himself - perhaps we, as parents, too, to some extent contributed to the sexualization of their daughters? If appearance is important to you and is a measure of success in life (that is, you will not only meet, but also to see off on clothes), chances are you have transferred your views of your daughter. Hopefully, after reading this article you will have a better idea of ​​how to bring up the girl. You may even have to go to her daughter and apologize to her for the role you have played in the formation of unhealthy ideas about the role and mission of women.

The next step - daughter put on a strict diet ... in relation to the media, that is to limit TV viewing, press and the Internet. Although it is impossible to completely protect the girl from the harmful influence of the media, we can eliminate factors that could cause the most harm to her mental health.