How to make a competent summary: rules and tricks

December 20, 2013

 make a competent summary
 Finding a good job is not as easy as it sounds, because each position claims are usually a few people. And when choosing candidates for the employer often focuses on the resume. The applicant, who knows how to create a resume, there will always be a winner: it surely will be invited for an interview, where you can show all its advantages.


The main recommendations

Summary - a kind of business card of an employee, which is used to attract the attention of the employer. To resume writing must be taken very carefully, given the fact that most employers carefully evaluate not only the content but also the form of the document. Various design summary offered by many sites devoted to job search. The easiest way is to use ready forms, which are always well prepared and contain all the necessary information.

At the beginning of summary indicates basic information:

  • Full name (and sometimes also the middle name) of the applicant;
  • Mobile phone;
  • Address (in most cases enough to specify the town and street, apartment number and the code of the intercom to report, of course, it is not necessary);
  • E-mail (maximum security, without a touch of frivolity);
  • You can also specify the date of birth and age (too young job seekers or those whose approaching retirement age, it is better not to dwell age account).

You must also specify the name of the office to which the applicant claims. The name should sound exactly as on the website of his employer or in the announcement. Immediately indicate the desired size of the starting salary. Too shy is not necessary, but still figures to be realistic: the secretary without experience can not qualify for a salary that is offered to top managers.

The next item - experience. If the experiment is small, you should write as much detail. Those who changed a lot of jobs, it is appropriate to mention just about the most significant experiences or limited to a few last job. All jobs are listed in chronological order from the most recent I: first specified period of work, then - the name of the organization, the scope of its activities, hereinafter - the position and duties. Here it is appropriate to list their achievements.

Education. You must specify an education that allows you to apply for this position. Information about additional education can also be not out of place, if some courses are in some way connected with the interests of the vacancy. On education writing as well as on the work, indicating the period of study, the name of the university, faculty, specialty Diploma.

Professional skills. In this section of the summary should be written on all their knowledge and skills that could be useful in his new job. The extent of knowledge of foreign languages ​​and computer needs to be specified - at what level the applicant owns languages, the program knows exactly what and how well.

The last point - for more information. Here you can write about personal qualities, willingness to travel or move to another city, wishes to schedule. For some positions it has a value having a personal car and driver's license - in this case, this information should also be provided. On the possibility to provide recommendations from previous employers also write in this section of the summary. Here it is possible to write about the marital status and hobbies, but this information should be as brief.

The optimum size of resume - one A4 page. If the resume is long, it is better to correct it by removing all the excess information.


It is not necessary to make summary

If the resume is not necessary to strive for originality. This is especially true design resume - let better it will be standard than unusual. Even those who claim to be creative office, write better about yourself dry and strictly - excessive emotionality in the abstract completely inappropriate.

Grammatical, spelling or stylistic errors in the summary are not allowed. Such summary does not inspire confidence among employers.

It is not necessary to specify in the summary of superfluous information. It is not necessary to inform employers about their weight, political preferences, religion and zodiac sign. Some more information is better not specify in the resume and cover letter to him.

It should refrain from the use of the summary of abbreviations and terms that can be understood only by specialists. HR staff simply can not understand what is being discussed.

It should not be too hard to tell in the summary of his hobby. It is enough to list a few interests that would somehow indicate the applicant's compliance office. For example, love for the sport is indirect evidence of an active position in life, and the ability to do needlework characteristic of the candidate as a person assiduous and attentive.

Photo for the summary must be of good quality, in any case not made on the beach or in the woods on a mobile phone. The photo should not be anything extra - other people, animals, trees, cars and buildings. Not the best option would be to photos and documents (passport, visa, right) - these photos are rarely successful. Suitable photo in the workplace appropriate clothing, always with a smile.

It is undesirable to write to resume with false information or an employer surprise inadequate requirements that can relate to wages and working conditions. Even outstanding professionals may refuse to work if his demands seem too high, so you should objectively assess their "value" in the labor market and do not demand too much.

Maria Bykov

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  • business ethics

Mama's Boy: whether to enter into a relationship with him?

December 20, 2013

 Wish list for future husband most women begins with the reliability, determination and courage. Unfortunately, these qualities have not all are males, some of whom did not become independent and "cling to the mother's skirt" almost until retirement. Mama's Boy - this is not the man, with whom relations are going to be nice and easy.


Where did they come from

It is believed that sissy come from single-parent families. After his parents' divorce or the death of the boy's father left his mother, who for the sake of the child refuses to marry again, and devotes herself to raising a child Raising a child: who will win?  Raising a child: who will win?
 . It can literally "blow off motes" with a son or be strict and domineering, but in any case the mother and child have strong ties, which are not so easy to break.

Of course, all children are tied to their mothers, but in adolescence the child gradually (and sometimes quite dramatically) separated from their parents, to the age of seventeen to twenty years of "fly out of the nest." Unfortunately, this does not always happen. The boy's mother could force him to stay with them in different ways: in the course are, and manipulation and direct pressure. As a rule, the young man gives up and continues to live in his parents' house, or at least retains a close relationship with his mother.

It would seem, what's wrong with children and parental love? But life is arranged so that as long as the children live with their parents, it is extremely difficult to become self-reliant. The main family is mom, which means that her son never becomes independent.

Similarly, the relationship with the mother may develop in boys who grew up in two-parent families. For example, if the father did not take a serious part in the upbringing of a child suffering from alcoholism or simply was a workaholic, and my mother has elevated anxiety Anxiety - how to distinguish normal from disease?  Anxiety - how to distinguish normal from disease?
   and sought to constantly monitor his son.


How to recognize the mother's son

There are several symptoms that can be suspected that the man too attached to his mother:

  • As a rule, these men marry late, and by the age of thirty have over their shoulders experience of living together with a woman;
  • Sometimes they do not have the expertise and independent life. The man, who is thirty years lives with his mother, quite suspicious;
  • The young man maintains constant contact with his mother, report on their movements and is always ready to change his plans when his mother so desires;
  • A man who is not inclined to seek solution to the problem, and blame for these problems, too, are likely to be stuck in childhood. It is possible that it is infantile mother's son;
  • Young people too often spoke about his mother or, even sadder, leads her as an example. Well, I have to admit that my mother takes too large a place in his heart;
  • He can not decide on their own and need the advice of his own mother? You should not rejoice if he ask for advice and someone else: the man simply can not and is afraid to make decisions.

The behavior of the mother men too can be eloquent. So, some of the ladies do not hide that jealous sons to daughters-potential. But even if the future mother-in looks friendly and cute, do not delude ourselves: its place in the heart of the son she will not give up without a fight.


What threatens the relationship with this man?

Mama's boy may be harmless enough: they do not do anything wrong, but only obediently doing the will of his mother. But do not expect from such a man of independence and decisive action. It is unlikely to be able to support a family, and certainly will not be able to defend it in a critical situation. Mama's boy can be frustratingly passive or, on the contrary, bustling, active, but they were never willing to take responsibility for their actions.

Sometimes mama's boy rebelling like a rebellious teenager. They seldom dare to raise his voice to his mother, so they try to assert themselves at the expense of other people, such as his wife. And then everything is possible, from some obscure demands obedience and submission to battering. Others linked to the mother's men try to prove their independence by means cheating - this is a very popular form of rebellion. Caught in the act, such a man will ask for forgiveness or to prove that it has the right to change, but the secret is just to respect themselves for what decided to rebel.


Rules of communication with sissy

Please this man is simple: just like his mother, and once and for all agree that it is - an ideal. If the future mother in law would not oppose the marriage, and her son, too, will not mind: is it possible to think about marriage and life together. To think about all of this is necessary, of course, the future wife, mama's boy does not like to engage in organizational matters.

With such men can only get along very domineering and very enterprising lady, capable, however, remain on the sidelines, leaving the palm-law In-law - a survival strategy  In-law - a survival strategy
 . It is not necessary to demonstrate its power: it is better to create the impression of a man, that he - the head of the family.

Re momma son is almost impossible, it is better to leave all illusions on this score, and accept the fact that my mother will always be for him in the first place. It is not necessary to enter into a conflict with her mother in law: surely her son will be on the side of the mother, and would prefer to leave his wife (and if by the time a baby, then the baby), so as not to disappoint my mother.

If there is a conflict between mother and son, it is better not to intervene, while maintaining strict neutrality. They certainly make peace, but to blame for everything may appoint a daughter.

If possible, try to persuade a man should live separately from his mother. Living together is not easy-in-law at all, and live with a jealous and overly active in-law is doubly difficult. Of course, a loving mother would find a way to control and son at a distance, but there is a chance that at least she will not be breaking into the bedroom at the most inopportune moment.

Maria Bykov

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  • Family Psychology