Living together: how to pleasure a woman
May 28, 2012
There are several factors that are very important for the harmonious relations: patience, mutual respect and understanding. Material base is not enough for a family, also need psychological and physiological compatibility, the ability to accept the other as he is, to recognize their right to be themselves, not pay attention to some small things, or at least easy to forgive them, and to do it so as not to your self-esteem suffered. A man should regularly think about how to please the woman he loves.
Joint life of two people who do not experience each other real feelings can not be anything more than the usual co-existence and will quickly become a burden for both. You must learn to love, to make concessions, to take into account each other's interests. In the minds of each person already has a model of family relations, based on the example of the family in which he grew up. Since all families are different, for those who are just starting to live together, the difficulties are inevitable.
Men and women
Everyone knows the popular expression: the man - the stronger sex, women - poor. Their interests and tastes often vary, as well as their behavior in different situations. This difference we owe the very nature of man. However, for all that men and women are part of the same whole, and can complement each other.
In the process of growing up, each of us formed an idea of what should be a man, and what - woman. The creation of these ideas due to both psychological and physiological factors. Communicating with people of the opposite sex, traditions adopted in the family and in society, also have an influence.
Opposites complement each other
Differences are not limited to the structure and physiological functions of the body and extend to psychological characteristics. Stereotypical woman - gentle and caring, aggression is unusual for her, it is generally quieter and softer men. Men tend to strong actions, his actions are purposeful and straightforward. We are biologically adapted to together produce offspring, but in human society, physical attraction, passion, sexual satisfaction is not associated exclusively with the birth of children. People can live a long time together, and are of particular importance psychology. Differences in thinking and behavior of men and women can interfere with relationships, but even so, you can build a very happy family. To do this:
- Mutual respect and self-esteem
These, actions and facial expressions, glances, gestures reflect mutual respect or lack of it. Gentle words are needed for both, but especially women in need. Interest in the problems and passions partner, willingness to help is an important part of the relationship. The ability to maintain such a relationship begins to develop in adolescence, when the mentality of young people formed especially intense.
It is also important not to forget about self-esteem. Dissolve in a partner - a bad way to build relationships. Taking care of a loved one, we need to continue to live my life, chat with friends (not only with the general), work, learn - in short, to develop.
In the minds of people, especially women, we have implemented a long time the idea that sex - it is something dirty and should occur only under certain conditions (the first of which - the official marriage). Such stereotypes can greatly complicate relations in later life. Fortunately, for most people it is clear that the main thing that you need for sex - this is love, mutual attraction. And no formalities shall not deliver the pleasure of the woman, which is in a relationship with a beloved man.
At the same time, sexual freedom leads to the fact that many teenagers, especially boys get their first glimpse of the sex of the pornographic photographs and films. Normally, what they want in a way to remove the fear of sexual relations
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and maybe learn something. However, pornography gives little idea of the real sex - especially because the actors work for the camera. And the future of men need to know that during sex, it is important to focus on your partner and do what a pleasure it, not what you once saw on the internet.
Adults may even shocking that adolescents discuss sex with each other, is not particularly shy in expressions. However, this is a normal phase of growing up, and due to the fact that now these issues are sufficiently open. In addition, the experience of discussing these issues will help them in the future without the embarrassment of talking about it with your partner or wife.
If you are not a teenager - you often discuss sex with your woman? You know exactly how to please her? If you are together for years, you are sure that it tastes have not changed? This need to talk. Sex - a very important part of the relationship is long-recognized fact. Get rid of false embarrassment - this is of course, what's stopping you discuss what is the integral part of your life?
The less forbidden, so is between you and your woman, the more fun will be in your life together. Maybe the two of you for a long time a secret dream to try, for example, BDSM, but are afraid to admit it to each other. It is not a perversion, and one of the options the rules like everyone else, that two grown men do to each other by mutual agreement. Your relationships can be much richer and richer than you think. Just do not be afraid to open up to each other again and again.
Nonverbal communication: words - not important
April 21, 2011
Non-verbal communication - is the exchange of information with other people without using words. The way a person speaks, has the greater value and impact than what he says. Most people do not take information out of context - at the same time saying the man says facial expression, posture, voice sound, status indications, and more. The unit of the time we perceive much more information than we can realize, but all of it is part of the non-verbal communication.
One of the major categories of non-verbal communication are:
- Personal space
- Time use
- Posture and body movements
- Eye contact
- Appearance (clothing, jewelry, and so on)
- The context of communication
The importance of non-verbal communication
According to one of the cultural attitudes adopted person should attach importance to what he was told - this setting is fixed when communicating with parents during the school years, and then used over a lifetime. Sensitivity to nonverbal signals thus reduced. At the same time, it is impossible to truly understand other people and efficiently interact with them, listening only their words.
Functions of nonverbal communication
- Supplement: nonverbal cues can give information in addition to the words.
- Controversy: non-verbal cues can also contradict what a person says. Often it happens spontaneously, but the conscious use of the contradiction of verbal and nonverbal signals can be very subtle tool for influencing the interlocutor.
- Repetition: the use of gestures, facial expressions and other signals to emphasize or repeat what was said.
- Control: using non-verbal communication can be sent to the interaction between people.
- Substitution: gestures, touch, looks can often replace the word.
- Accents: nonverbal cues is an excellent way to place accents in his speech; without words will be much less expressive.
Use of time is one of the important components of non-verbal communication. For instance, punctuality may indicate a person to respect themselves and others, self-discipline, as well as status. Successful people are often very value their time and expect it from others.
Rate of speech also falls into the category of time use. As a rule, very quickly say is not very self-confident people - consciously or not, they try to tell as much as possible in the shortest period of time, for fear that soon they will no longer listen. People accustomed to the fact that they listen, speak in a normal, at your own pace.
Evaluating the criterion of human use of the time to consider its cultural identity. With respect to the culture time are divided into monochronal and polykhronic. In the first case taken to adhere strictly defined time frames and schedules. Violate the terms wasting your and other people's time, it is considered unacceptable. Western countries are monochronal culture.
In regions polychronal culture (Middle East, the Mediterranean, Latin America), being considered much less clear structure, which can be changed depending on the circumstances and desires; it is secondary to the personal relationships between people.
The appearance of a man begins to speak before the man himself speak. For example, excessive concern about appearance, as well as contempt for her, usually not in favor of human rights. However, in order to derive maximum benefit from the non-verbal communication, you need to judge people a paste of several criteria. So, black clothing can talk about the gloomy mood, mourning, but it can express and focus on the work, and a willingness to flirt
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, and much more. Also, the bright colors are not necessarily talking about a cheerful mood.
The role of non-verbal communication in sight to a large extent determined by cultural influence. For example, in Western culture, direct eye contact is a sign of confidence and / or the interest that said the source, or to themselves. In some Asian countries, avoiding direct eye contact is a sign of respect.
The main components of non-verbal communication
The mechanisms of non-verbal communication can be anything, from a height of raising the eyebrows to the angle of the head to the right, left, forward or backward. But there are some basic components, which are often used in decoding non-verbal communication signals. First of all, it's facial expressions, which in most cases speaks about emotions
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a man much more than his speech
. For the most correct understanding facial expressions need to know the personality traits of a particular source, but there are a number of common elements: for example, the surprise expressed by raised eyebrows and wide eyes, anger - lipped, mixed by at the nose eyebrows arched frontal wrinkles, sadness - drooping corners of her mouth, "extinct" look and so on
. Also very expressive gestures and posture, which express the mood of the person and his general condition
. It is well known that the crossed arms and legs indicate internal discomfort of man, his unwillingness to communicate, active gestures, the constant movement of the head and attempts to kill say that man not only listens carefully to the interlocutor, but also fully involved in the dialogue
. Considerable importance is the interpersonal space that is created between people, because it has a lot to say about the nature of the relationship: the public, that is valid for strangers is a distance of 3-3, 5 meters between people; Social distance is from 1, 5 to 3 meters and corresponds to a purely professional or superficial communication; a distance of less than one and a half meters between conversing people often explained by their confidence friendly relations, and when less than half a meter between the people, we are talking already about the intimate distance
Much is determined by the look, that is direct visual contact between people
. It is believed that direct eye contact indicates openness to dialogue, attention to the words of the interlocutor, the desire to hear and understand it
. In most cases this is true, but eye contact is distinctive and can be interpreted in different ways depending on the specific situation
. So, when dealing with a person, telling about some unpleasant or sad event in their lives, long straight look in the eyes can be a sign of a lack of empathy, tact, or simply hostility - in such cases it is more correct in terms of education is to abandon the intense direct sight
. In addition, the view has a different emotional etiquette in different cultures
. So, if you look in the eyes of Western civilization is taken for granted, and even desirable, in Japan, it is a sign of disrespect and rudeness simply, in this tradition to denote attention to human eyes in the head, but not right in the eye
. Finally, a different meaning depending on the circumstances of the conversation and uttered words can be very silent, that is setting and the duration of the pause in conversation or monologue: silence can be interpreted as an acknowledgment and agreement, as the negation as a means of control over socializing or as a way to strengthen just the spoken word