How to return a man: after breaking the rules of conduct

May 1, 2011

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 In XIX century in Malta, the Philippines and Chile have adopted the Family Code, under which a divorce is impossible in these countries in general. However, even the men in these countries are finding ways to circumvent the law and go in search of happiness. Therefore, women all over the world often have to wonder - how to get a man?

 How to return a man: after breaking the rules of conduct

How to behave after his departure?

Variant of the answer may be several. Usually, the first thing that comes to mind for most women - revenge. Ways to carry out its set of blackmail of children (such as the ban on meeting with them), the requirement of financial compensation (for example, Linda Hamilton after divorce sued former husband James Cameron and seventy million dollars), the machinations of his new love, the threat of suicide and so on.

However, this path - not constructive, because, expending energy on the invention and implementation of ways to avenge a wrong, woman thus destroys itself subconsciously reinforces and even cultivates the pain of his passing, his time, which was successfully able to spend on self-improvement. Therefore, the most important thing - to settle down (with the help of my mother, girlfriend, performance of professional duties - as you like), and decide - whether to fight for it?

If the answer is unequivocal - yes, yes, yes - you need to start working on them, when the emotions subside after leaving, and will be able to act calmly and reasonably. No matter how much it hurt to believe it - the old relations will not return. Broke up a family is often compared to a broken cup or vase - and not by accident, because china is possible to try to stick together, but the original beauty and grace will not hide the crack will hardly be possible.

The conclusion is obvious - not to start again the familiar relationships and create new ones. Let this be a totally different story, open a new leaf - but with the same person, relatives and friends. Change her hair and clothing style, to lose a few extra kilos, exercise - certainly the right "recipe" of treatment after breaking up, but this is only half the battle. Much more important change internally.

First of all - analyze common life, and to do so adequately, objectively and without unnecessary emotions. Of course, he was guilty, but because the reasons for his departure - much deeper, it would be wrong to blame only razluchnitsa Young and the Restless. The family conflict are guilty always two - hence the origins of differences and problems should be seen in the behavior of its own (it's hard sometimes hurt - but it is necessary). And only then to develop a plan to return men.

 How to return a man: after breaking the rules of conduct

The mistakes of others

The most correct solution - carefully avoided meeting him for the first time after breaking up when the offense is not yet settled and we can make some stupid things a lot. But then, transforms, becoming dazzling, confident beauty - it's time if accidentally falls into his eyes (knowing his daily route, habits and hobbies, it is not so difficult). However, all efforts can be crossed by a single error, the most common of which are:

  • Please come back ("Come back, I forgive you" - more "cinematic" a phrase that in different variations often encountered in life). Once he was gone, so some conditions for joint life did not suit him. Begging to start again - to show that everything will be as before. He hardly agree to a resumption of that from which one escaped.
  • Trying to evoke pity (lack of money, difficulties in raising children, health problems, loneliness and uselessness: the goal of all of these arguments - to achieve its self-pity). A woman looks accordingly - pathetic and useless, unattractive, not able to cope with emotions Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code  Emotions and culture: how to decipher the emotional code
 , Unsure of herself.
  • Blaming the men in everything that happened. Let the wine it is obvious and there is no doubt - if there is a great need to be with him, and there will be strength for forgiveness. Aggression, hysteria, insults, demeans women and minimize the chances of a loved one to return.
  • Asking about one another - an extremely unconstructive approach. Firstly, the comparison is often the case in her favor (and what could be worse than to hear the like). Secondly, why reopen old wounds, which worked so hard to heal?

Every man - a hunter, conqueror of nature, in one degree or another. Return it - then be a completely new woman, a strange and mysterious relationship with who promised him a lot of nice and interesting things. The image and style of behavior, attention to detail, comfort themselves and others - the surest way to win this fight for his heart.

Darya Tsvetkova

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Perfect Date: how should it be?

November 8th, 2013

 Perfect Date
   The time of origin of a new relationship many consider magic. The charm of the first meetings with nothing comparable, and wish that these days were only the best impressions. Men and women are equally worried before a date, but the perfect date with the point of view of women and men in terms of looks a little different.


Rendezvous as it is

Love meeting - a meeting of stakeholders in each other people alone. The meeting was not random, and specially organized to get to know each other better. The first appointment is crucial to the development of relations: it is impossible to count how many wonderful novels did not take place due to the fact that on the first date someone behaved badly and disappointed partner. That is why to the first date Ten taboos on the first date: A Guide for Men  Ten taboos on the first date: A Guide for Men
   usually carefully prepared both men and women.

Subsequent visits, of course, is also important. During repeated meetings lovers continue to recognize each other. In addition, such a meeting - part of the courtship ritual, a way to tell your loved one on the sympathy and please him.


Feminine look

Most of the girls goodbye expects first romance. Suppose that a date will be completely unoriginal, but sensual, beautiful and very romantic.

You can schedule an appointment at any place with old romantic tradition - suitable, for example, the monument, which is found is not the first generation of lovers. However, many modern girls do not like to travel alone to the meeting place, but prefer to love Cavalier stopped them. In any case of men it is expected that it will flower.

The next item on the program - a casual stroll during which the lovers talk, getting to know each other better. It is advisable to walk in interesting and beautiful places (sleeping areas hardly suitable, but the historic center - completely). On the first date she is unlikely to agree to walk on you men of the park, but later, when the relationship will trust, and not be ruled out that option.

While walking the couple can go to a cozy cafe (or a luxury restaurant), where the man turned out to be booked in advance table. Such surprises are usually comes to girls like. For a romantic dinner acquaintance continues. The understanding reached such a level that no longer want to leave.

Further variants are possible. A couple in love can go to the last session in the movie (the best - in the romantic comedy, and it is better if the proposal will come from the men) or just walking through the streets. At this stage, it is expected that a man will show his sympathy and desire to close, but it will be delicate enough not to show excessive persistence. She, in turn, can go to the wishes of the beloved or restrict chaste kiss of forgiveness.

My perfect finishing touch - a romantic message or a call from a tender confessions about a half an hour after the girl returned home. Ideally, the same day a man should thank the girl for the great time and assign a new date, which will be no worse than the previous one.


What to look for men

Arrange a romantic date is a snap. At the same time be sure to consider a few things:

  • Performances of girls about romance Romance - trap for women?  Romance - trap for women?
   quite traditional. Do not expect that the beloved will appreciate the romantic fire ring with seating on a first date or joint riding a motorcycle on the muddy roads. It is better to give preference to the classical program: walk, restaurant, cinema;
  • It's wise to warn the girl, as she is better dressed. Otherwise, come in a chic restaurant in the wrong, it felt dress, she may get upset. In extreme cases, you can adjust the plans depending on how you dressed woman;
  • Romantic Flowers Romantic date - add an element of surprise  Romantic date - add an element of surprise
   required. Do not buy too large bouquets (hard to wear them), but wilted daisies is also unlikely to be appreciated;
  • It is not necessary to insist on the close, but the girl is necessary to make clear that it is desirable.


Male look

Among men, the romantics too much, so a romantic candlelight dinner - out of competition for both sexes. And yet men tend to be more pragmatic. For example, when choosing a restaurant, they probably will prefer the bar with large portions of hearty food, not a French restaurant with a dizzying prices.

It is believed that most of the stronger sex does not mind if a romantic dinner gradually spill over into a romantic breakfast. In fact, men are quite capable of enjoying the very process of dating, even though deep down they are, of course, will not give up as soon as possible to get close to his beloved.


How to make a perfect date a man?

Usually travelers administered by men. Anyway courtship - a man's job, women are prescribed only accept tokens. Yet the girl quite easy to please a man on a date:

  • It is better to talk less on abstract themes and more to say about the man - such a nice attention to all without exception;
  • It is undesirable to choose from the menu the most expensive dishes, especially if nothing is known about the financial capabilities of the gentleman. At the same time, if the men ordered three-course meal, you should not be limited to leaf salad or a cup of coffee, it is better to order something more substantial;
  • If you see that the man was trying to arrange a meeting, you must thank him for his efforts and demonstrate your enthusiasm;
  • Any man would be nice recognition of his merits;
  • Hopefully kiss goodbye certainly will not hurt.

Maria Bykov

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