- How to prevent the sexualization of girls: the recommendations of parents
- How to reduce the harmful effects
- Influence Fashion
- Understanding the Beauty
- How to talk with her daughter
How to talk with her daughter about appearance, beauty and personal value
- If a girl under the age of five years
You can bet that the majority of comments addressed to infants and young children related to their appearance. Well, this is quite understandable, given that too early to talk about the personality and character of the child's actions and deeds. Remember, after you heard the phrase "what a beautiful child," when your daughter was still in diapers? And, most likely, you repeated this phrase countless times, speaking of the other children. Although the child may not understand what they say about him adults, it will not last long. If the girl from the cradle to make compliments, admire her blond hair, blue eyes, fair skin and graceful figure, she quickly learns to accept these compliments for granted.
But compliments appearance (from parents and other adults) have a drawback. Imagine that your daughter is an expression of admiration not bashfully downcast eyes or respond modest "thank you" and say, "I know I'm beautiful, everything I talk about it"
Agree, it's terrible. Therefore, we must try not to focus on the appearance of the girls, and praise her inner qualities, her intelligence and achievement. If it is constantly expect compliments from others
Compliments and their meaning: do not mistake the words
Become literally dependent on the admiration (regardless of who she admires), hurt her self-esteem, she will go into puberty
Transitional age - the period of emotional turmoil
Which, as is known, no color? Acne, hair that is impossible to put the body that got out of control, - the truth is, many of us still can not get over it.
Parents need to find a healthy balance, which is not to praise or nedohvalit girl, especially in the first years of her life. On the one hand, the girls, of course, want to hear that they are pretty. If we do not tell them about it, they will subconsciously seek male attention, to deserve praise in any way. On the other hand, if you overdo it with praise, the girl might get the impression that its value lies only in its appearance. It is a time bomb, when in time its outer beauty fades, and compliments will sound less and less, it may begin depression
Depression - a little more than a bad mood
I have problems with self-esteem.
- If a girl aged five to eleven years
As soon as your daughter matures and moves from class to class, she had formed their own idea of beauty
. No matter which formed under the influence of these ideas - influenced by the media or the views adopted in its company - one thing is for sure: the external beauty of it probably already have deafened ears
. It is therefore important in this period honestly and openly discuss issues with the girl of beauty, womanhood, to be open to dialogue with it
. As soon as an opportunity (for example, a girl watching a beauty contest or other TV shows in this format), start with it this important conversation
. Let her know that the main thing - not outer beauty and inner beauty that comes from the heart
. If the girl's weight problems, stress that a healthy diet and exercise are very important not only for appearance but also for the normal state of health (it is important that you do professed these principles)
. Rather than scold her for what she leans on sweets or fast food, try to reduce the temptation to exclude harmful products from the menu
. Remember that children learn best by example, so try to submit her daughter to become a positive example for her role model
. And never, under any circumstances, is not ashamed of it because of the weight, even in jest
If at this age your daughter pays special attention to appearance and body image, should look at its immediate surroundings - maybe it's the influence of her company
. Maybe it affects a girlfriend? Or is it too much to heart receives the information read in magazines, information it can not critically assess due to his young age? Maybe she looks "adult" movies and TV shows, or listening to music that promotes primitive and sexist views of female beauty? Maybe you or your husband too much emphasis on appearance, so your daughter thinks that appearance is most important? If you notice any warning signs, do everything possible to compensate for the damage, even if they have to burn the daughter of an appointment with a therapist or dietitian
. Many eating disorders start in this tender age, and if we fail to notice the warning signs, then will only get worse
Again, do not cease to emphasize that kindness, honesty and other positive qualities more important than appearance. This is not a call to convince a girl that looks do not matter - it's not true. Teach her daughter that her body - a temple, the seat of her soul, and this temple to care: maintain a healthy weight, eat right, exercise, take care of themselves (ie, hair, teeth and skin). As girls grow faster than boys, during the transition period of its appearance is not just change, what it is necessary to prepare. It should not take its present appearance as something final, but only as an intermediate stage of development. It is important not to comment on the appearance of the other girls (or your daughter) that she did not appear inferiority complex
The inferiority complex - do not revel worthlessness
That she did not feel worse or "not like everyone else." When she was ten years old, begin to talk to her on the subject of pending changes to its accompanying transformation from girl to girl.
- If a girl older than twelve years
To the question "What is the relationship to the exterior of your parents instilled in childhood? "Many women respond that even many years later, they remember the exact phrases that express the attitude of parents towards the exterior, and still feel the pain that they have caused these comments.
- "Are you sure you'll be second? "
- "Do you know how many calories are in that the cake? "
- "Maybe you should not have it ..."
- "You'll never find a husband, if you will so lean on flour".
Such comments, even made a joke, do not pass without leaving a trace of your daughter. Even if the girl really should lose weight, it is better if it will tell her pediatrician rather than mum, constantly pestering her a disapproving look. And by the way, if the weight of your child's pediatrician is not worried, it should not bother you too. Here again it must be stressed the value of good nutrition and exercise, and show the effectiveness of a healthy lifestyle by example. Practice, not a sermon.
Most of the girls are going through the most radical changes in the body during the period from twelve to eighteen years old, and by the end of the school they already perfectly formed feminine figure. Many girls these changes being overtaken by surprise, and the task of mothers - to help prepare for them. You must let them know that it is normal that these changes are natural - the way nature prepares the girl for procreation. Never think that your daughter is "already knows" about this, that this knowledge is inherent in it from birth - it is not.
If your daughter twelve to eighteen years old, try to refrain from commenting on her appearance, weight and shape. If all of this is important to you, chances are you will pass your concern about appearance girl. In the presence of the daughter of praise women who really deserve to be called beautiful - intelligent, decent and good women. Most importantly - as often as possible to remind her that beauty - it is something more than long legs and slender waist.