- The first signals of discontinuity when to sound the alarm?
- What to look for
The sudden rupture of relations - like a bolt from the blue. It is staggering: yesterday it was all so good, and suddenly the situation changed dramatically. To the parting is not caught by surprise, should always treat a loved one carefully and pay attention to the subtle symptoms at first - the first signs of rupture. Such signals are always there, the main thing - time to decipher them.
How to understand that separation is not far off? It should only take a closer look to the partner. Do not have appeared if he had any unexplained habits, which did not exist before? Not if he suddenly began to disappear without explanation? It is not excluded that the closer people are already adjusted to the separation and gradually preparing for this partner.
Alarming symptom - the disappearance of common friends. Sami then remain friends, but for some reason prefer to communicate with only one member of the family. They probably know about the impending break-up and make their choice.
Changing nature of the relationship as a couple. Can start a fierce argument. It is known that people try to love each other and take care not to offend even a great anger. If during a quarrel partner tries to "beat on the patient" and to humiliate a loved one, it is likely that he had already decided that the future together with this person he will not.
The reverse situation: the quarrel cease altogether. There is no relationship without conflict: clarifying the relationship, people are trying to find common ground, to come to some mutually acceptable solution. If the partner suddenly becomes calm and refuse to discuss relationships, it may mean that the relationship is already indifferent to him, and he does not want to expend energy on something uninteresting to him to discuss the issues already.
Loving people try to support each other. If the problems in one partner from another cause gloating and become a cause for ridicule - it is an occasion guard.
Sex is too rare and formal, or, on the contrary, unnaturally hot. The latter occurs if the partner wants to, for example, to leave about itself the best memories.
Outbreaks of unexplained irritability
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against the partner may be associated with anything. And yet, very often, they are a sign that attitudes are moving to the final.
Can the prevention of parting?
Each time, starting the relationship, I want to believe that this love - forever. But the reality is that almost every relationship sooner or later come to an end. This can happen in fifty years after they met, but can - and within a week. And universal way to avoid breaking up, of course not.
Still, you can try to avoid at least a sudden rupture. All you need to do - build a relationship of trust. It is not easy: it is necessary to speak honestly with your partner and always take his point of view, a willingness to compromise and to support a loved one. It is important to discuss the problems in relations
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And not expect that they will somehow disappear. Miracles do not happen, and mutual irritation builds up to then lead to separation. Parting, which might well have been avoided if both partners time to change their behavior.
It is not necessary to hope that a loved one will wake up telepathic abilities, and he guessed that he was not told. Most often this error allowed the girl: something they do not like the behavior of a young man, but they are silent, hoping that he would guess to change their behavior. Of course, this does not happen, and the wounded girl vomits relationship. But it was enough just to talk time.
Of course, in life anything can happen: sometimes the gap may be surprising even to the initiator of this gap, which yesterday did not think of parting. However, most relationships are declining gradually, and everything can be fixed, to be closer to your loved one.
Can I change something?
Thus, signs of impending rupture there. Is it possible to change something in this situation depends on whether there were still a partner at least some sense. Fortunately, the feelings do not usually disappear in an instant, so the chances to change the situation still is.
First of all, we should talk. Talk about their feelings, while avoiding accusations. Ask for help and advice. Try to find out what a partner wants from the relationship, if it is from them, of course, he wants something.
There is a risk that during such a conversation will hear the words of parting. They can only accept. But the chances that your partner is ready to further work on saving relationship too. And it is likely that a frank discussion will allow both parties to understand their mistakes and change their behavior to the relationship became even better.
How to make it clear favorite that will break?
Decide on separation is not as easy as it seems. Not everyone is ready to trample on the feelings of the partner, many people want to prepare the favorite last person to parting, that he did not suffer too much. Of course, this is not always possible, and yet the effort is worthwhile. After partner certainly not to blame for the fact that love has passed, and cause him unnecessary pain - too cruel.
It should start gradually move away from a loved one before a person. And this should be both physically and emotionally. Rarer. Most go somewhere without him. Less calls. Less tender catchphrases and jokes. No worries. Less listen less to agree, communicate less in general. Let the partner gradually withdraw from dialogue - so it will be easier to move the separation.